I have urgent questions. Please help

Few months back there was a huge shift from a big shock in our life. It seemed majority of alters I knew instantly merged. It's taking ages to adjust after thst. Some alters disipeared others stayed quite untill the last few weeks. Suddenly our little is back but she has another little with her and now I'm hearing so many voices.

Is merging from shock and a trigger permant?
Do some alters hibernate and return later?
How do I look after child alters?
How can I confirm that theses child alters are genuine if they can't speak?
How can I explain the inner world to someone? Its not just a dream or delusion.

Am I just going crazy because there is no one that believes me or takes me seriously. I tried getting help but soon as I mentioned DID all doors slammed in my face.
My partner was on board with the others when he could talk to them. But now he seems to have lost all understanding and I'm to scared and confused to explain it properly.

TheHiveMind wrote:Do some alters hibernate and return later?

I had an alter "die" in my inner world, and she never returned.

Arik wrote:

TheHiveMind wrote:Do some alters hibernate and return later?

I had an alter "die" in my inner world, and she never returned.

they do not technically die. it might have been more symbolic. she may have healed to a degree where she integrated or she may just have decided she wasn't needed anymore but is dormant.

i have had several be dormant for many years. they may never surface again, but they don't die.

TheHiveMind wrote:
Is merging from shock and a trigger permant?
Do some alters hibernate and return later?
How do I look after child alters?
How can I confirm that theses child alters are genuine if they can't speak?
How can I explain the inner world to someone? Its not just a dream or delusion.

it could be any of those, integration or they have just gone quiet for a period of time until they are ready/able to come back.

look after the child parts like you do external children. you can talk to them like you would a child. if they are scared, reassure them they are safe. talk calming to them. maybe even hug a stuffed animal since that could be helpful to them too. it all depends on what the child part needs.

our child parts do not all speak, but i can sense them through emotions or hear their thoughts. there are many ways they communicate that isn't verbal. if they stay consistent over time, they probably are an alter.

i don't know how to explain an inner world to someone because it just sounds like how someone without DID might daydream.

TheHiveMind wrote:Is merging from shock and a trigger permant?

For a fusion or merging to be seen as "permanent" the ISSTD Guidelines say that it must remain the same for at least 3 years. Even then, future splits are still possible if the system is not stable enough.

TheHiveMind wrote:Do some alters hibernate and return later?

Yes.

TheHiveMind wrote:How do I look after child alters?

Here are a few ressources:
https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/diss ... y-disorder
https://citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/d ... 1&type=pdf

There are also ressources about child alters in books such as "The haunted self" - "Coping with trauma-related dissociation" - "Healing the fragmented selves of trauma survivors" and others.

TheHiveMind wrote:How can I confirm that theses child alters are genuine if they can't speak?

I know it is difficult to communicate with non-verbal parts. You can communicate with gestures, sharing pictures or emotions, etc.

TheHiveMind wrote:How can I explain the inner world to someone? Its not just a dream or delusion.

As a symbolic subconscious thing maybe?

TheHiveMind wrote:Am I just going crazy because there is no one that believes me or takes me seriously. I tried getting help but soon as I mentioned DID all doors slammed in my face.

People lack training and knowledge in dissociative disorders. It is not the same as you being crazy. You need proper trauma care and treatment.

TheHiveMind wrote:My partner was on board with the others when he could talk to them. But now he seems to have lost all understanding and I'm to scared and confused to explain it properly.

I hope he will be receptive and open if you suggest him to read some of the books listed in the thread titled "the haunted self available online". Good luck.
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David.

the thing i have heard of, is alters disappear for a while occasionally and then usually rereturn eventually.

Purplesky wrote:they do not technically die.

I know, and that's why I put the word in quotes.

We just went through a similar but very different experience where the "demonic alter" ate thousands of selves against their will. We were able to recover all, but it merged them within a fraction of a second when the host became enraged and allied with it. Only 5 escaped, which is how we were able to still save the host and other selves. We had to convince the host to change sides though.

We also lost all support from the people who were closest to us, but we had one new friend who supported us, despite the fact our friends believed and knew this to be true. It is very hard to experience the rejection from people and lack of support at such a difficult time. Hang in there. All will resolve selves soon. As long as it is not a negative merge, as ours initially was, that just means that your personalities are finding ways to situate themselves within your system, and it may be a struggle at first, but they will find their way to where they need to be now. We found that hugely relevant common goals/priorities are what unite us and get us to set aside our differences and petty squabbles.

I hope that helps, but I am curious if the merge was negative or positive in nature. Do you mind sharing?

Foxy