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by Katten » Wed Jun 02, 2021 10:56 am
Hello all,
I am a SO. My partner has come to terms that there is a system, and the system in majority is very fond of this. However, one personality wich i guess is a Prosecutor, does not want the host to believe that there is a system at all. Prosecutor also scares almost evryone else in the system whenever he/she is around. Sometimes the ISH can push Prosecutor back to the rear, but not always. ISH also wants me not to speak to Prosecutor as it is dangerous.
Do you have any advice on how to proceed with this?
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by birdsong87 » Wed Jun 02, 2021 11:01 am
DID therapists are trained to handle this and to help the whole system.
it would be wise to seek help there. A SO cannot guide through therapeutic processes. they are needed as SO.
generally, stay accepting, express your own boundaries and keep them accountable when they are crossed. Don't get deeply involved in system politics. the challenge is to see them as one person with these different expressions that don't work together, not as separate people where one part is good and the other is evil, that is really not how it works.
Dx: DID cPTSD
host ; Asti (host 2); and others
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by IainEtc » Wed Jun 02, 2021 1:47 pm
Hi,
Systems have to deal with a ton of fear. When a system gets better it's like all the fear slides down to the last alter. Then they get super overloaded. If they're the last one they feel left out and abandoned. Protectors are really afraid the system is making a big mistake coming out and being too vulnerable. I'd kind of suggest you think about them as a Protector who's lonely and really scared and trying to do their job the best they can.
birdsong's right - SO's need to be SO's. Get a therapist to be the therapist.
Iain
Iain - 14, Colin - 17, Evan - 7, Cody - 16, & Host - the adult out front
When they say 'be yourself',
which one do they mean?
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