Don't know what to do with my alter

Starting March 13th, I had a dead beat drunk move in. I thought I could help him. But he broke all the rules. Made fun of the trauma I've been through, as well as talking about harming myself and, that's when a neighbor helped me out to live with him.

The guy who was a boyfriend, degraded me mentally and emotionally. He made me scared for my life, and it's actually league. After two to three weeks, I was fighting to move him out and bring him to court. The first one didn't work out, cause I wasn't sure about what I was doing.

Next I filed for domestic vilolence. Case of all the different kinds of abuse besides physical. And wrote in good detail. I got my restraining order temporary till court but he had to get out and stay out .that's what the judge ordered. The hearing isn't till July 29th. And Owen, my alter is misbehaving and acting like the loser the b/f was . My alter can't take abuse but he sure can dish it out.

I'm owen, I want to say I want more time for being ok. But I'm just stressed out cause I want to help. I just don't know what to do about it. We just have to go to court on zoom. And I stay away and hide. I'm not helping. I'm being mad cause I want this to be over and keep the restraining order. But I'm horable of waiting. This is the truth. But I don't really know how to corporate until we both get what we want. And I try to help but my core listens better. I'm just the whole cause I really am just a child alter. And I want to get.
Help for what I can do

Hi Owen we understand your frustration. We have been waiting 2 years nearly for our case to come to court every time we are given a date something Corona comes up and it is postponed. Last time we were given just 24 hours notice that court wasn't on.

Have you tried music or art to vent your frustration? I don't mean making something prity but something that you can destroy harmlessly. (Like singing really off key or with rude words instead of the proper lyrics or drawing a picture and then scribbling the hell out of it until the paper takes.)

To the host. I know this is hard for you now but please remember that all children act out if they have no other way of dealing in control. Try giving Owen something he can feel in charge of. Don't berate bad behaviour instead praise him when he is good or even when he felt the urge to be bad but wasn't. This will make him feel valued.
And take time for your self-esteem xxx

Good luck.

Owen - I'm a Protector too. I used to act out pretty bad. Then I figured out how to protect us without hurting the system. I had to listen to our T and our Host. I didn't always agree with them but I kept listening until I really got what they were saying. I need their help to be able to keep the system safe. I can't do it all by myself. It's not weakness. It's just how a system works. I need them - they need me. It was a hard lesson to learn but I got it. I know you're trying to help. I know you're scared and frustrated and don't know what to do. This is not easy $#%^. I also know you're brave and really smart. You'll figure this out.

Colin