Thank you so much for answering!
I have copied and pasted your suggestion for how to deal with the 'gaming incidents' into our private journal that everyone reads and suggest someone starts a research project on 'persecutor alters' so we can understand more.
Hopefully the PA themselves will take up the challenge of deciding now we are now longer in a situation where we get bullied daily (other than by them!) they may decide to do their own research and become a better (and hopefully kinder) protector!
Thanks again
Jody