How do you help a feral child part? (Trigger Warning)

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-- I know the ordeal. Sometimes when being sexually abused, the body responds in an automatic way. There is pleasure, but it is unvoluntary, mechanical. Yet, it sticks as part of the trauma. How can you stay whole and integrate the fact that you did NOT want the assault and yet, took a mechanical, physical pleasure from it? It's awful. It's gross. Of course we want to dissociate from it all!

-- Then comes the guilt. If there was a mechanical pleasure from the attack, we tend to think it must mean we wanted the attack. But it's not true! It's a lie we tell ourselves because the victim always feels guilty.

-- The shame of feeling a mechanical pleasure and arousal from an assault, belongs on the assaulter's shoulders. Especially if the assaulter triggered it all on purpose for psychological torture and manipulation.

-- This explains the feelings of dissociation and "zoning out" when the memory comes back.

-- Like any traumatic memories, anchoring onto the present and into a safe place/comfort item/whatever, helps. EMDR therapy helps too, but it needs to be adapted for the specificities of DID.

-- Hang in there. It's difficult, but it shall pass. It shall pass like a kidney stone, but it shall pass.

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Zami.










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