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Dissociated again

Postby Western » Wed Nov 18, 2020 5:24 pm

Tbh I don't even officially know if this is what's going on but it seems to be ticking all the boxes.

Been really stressed out for a couple of weeks and now I feel lim a different person. That's all I know. Like the old person has got left behind with whatever stresses they were going through and I'm just like. "oh hello".

I can sort of remember it all but it's like it didn't even happen to me.

Does this ever end?
Am I to keep shedding my skin for ever more?
What happens to all the ones that get left behind with the trauma?
I'm starting to feel bad for them.
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Re: Dissociated again

Postby ArbreMonde » Fri Nov 20, 2020 11:59 am

- From my own experience with the system I am part of, nobody is "left behind". Some get dormant for a while, but everybody stays here one way or another.

- Dissociating from the trauma is what enables us to function "normally" through the everyday life. Dissociating is a coping / survival mechanism. It is not bad per se, since it helps surviving.

- Therefore, the dissociated, traumatized parts are not "left behind". They are in hiding and keeping their secrets safe, so the host part/s can function. When the traumatized parts are triggered into front, or when they feel safe enough to come forward and talk about what they held, this enables to work with them towards healing them. But also, towards sharing the informations they hold with the rest of the system, towards helping the other parts to accept that this happened to the whole system since it happened to one of the system, come to terms with the events, desensitize the negative triggers... All the "classical" PTSD work.

- Nobody is left behind in a system - everybody is important and holds one of the keys towards healing the traumas and working together as a team to keep the whole system safe and happy.

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Re: Dissociated again

Postby Western » Fri Nov 20, 2020 8:51 pm

Thank you and yes I see what you are saying.

Sometimes I feel as if the ability to function "normal" is more of a curse than a blessing. I get a bit tired of coping.
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Re: Dissociated again

Postby ellenofnine » Sat Nov 21, 2020 11:32 am

I agree that alters are can become more dormant that left behind. Perhaps whomever you are is best suited for the situation.
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