by Zor » Thu Dec 10, 2020 4:00 am
TheGangsAllHere wrote:That's great, Pixie!! I'm glad that your T is so supportive, and that you have a clear plan of how to deal with any future boundary-crossing.
I am confident that had my messages been just as emotionally reactive as my mother's, he would have not been so kind with his wording. He pisses us off sometimes that way, but he NEVER holds back when honesty is needed. It's frustrating at times, but it's a good thing.
At this point, as Pixie said, the ONLY way we'll get messages from her is if she picks up the phone and calls or if she e-mails. The same boundary applies. As someone said before (I forget who, I'm sorry) in this thread- seeing the pattern of this beyond the last 20 year since I moved out, even into childhood and how these tendencies and criticisms and such almost certainly (we're 99% sure) created parts of our system... We can't, for our own good, subject ourselves to this $#%^ anymore. We won't do it.
Thanks for all your support and advice- everyone that replied here. I can't say how much it means to me and helped.
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