Journey Thread Sarandipity

I've completely had enough of everyone and everything... Again... But times like this are needed. Can't go through life distracting myself from everything. If obviously lays underneath festering and it needs to trickle out. It can't gush out because I'd kill myself. It needs to slowly trickle out which could take years.

I accepted a long time ago how messed up I am and unfixable. Its not about fixing. It's about allowing myself to gently and slowly feel all the pain.

-- Tue Aug 25, 2020 7:26 pm --

The other thing is there's nobody who can make it better. Nothing or nobody can make it better. It doesn't go away. It doesn't change. It doesn't get better.

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It feels like I just read someone abusive of an autistic partner, say that the autistic partner was the abusive one for not being compalecent enough, for having boundaries, for having anxiety, for needing calm and rest due to sensory overload, for needing time to recover from a social event, for stimming, for "being too weird".

Or maybe my coffe did not kick in yet?

--Zami--

ok sorry to interject here,
ok i am a bit out of touch, still need to catch up, i read some of the journey but anyways this reply above made me a little sad, so i wanted to say something. this is their journey thread, so of course they are gonna focus on their perspective mainly.
I think we all know Did is something that can make it hard for our loved ones, I see what you're saying, But I think we are here we try to support each other. idk, just seemed a bit harsh of a comment.

My ex is a sociopath type so he probably created the account to tell me its all my fault. Thanks though Zammi and spinningtops.

Sending a lot of moral support to you Sarandipity.

-David-

ArbreMonde wrote:Sending a lot of moral support to you Sarandipity.

-David-

Thanks David. It's one of the reasons I'm here less, because he copies and keeps all my posts. I was expecting this to be fair, he'd make accounts and try to mess my head still. He tried to harass me on a chat site I use when we split up before but luckily people there reported him. He's not a well man. Sarah

This is really awful. We are all sorry to hear about this. You are allowed to your own opinions and points of view, and allowed to express them. Especially since you do not give any names so there is no legal issue here from your part. There are some from his part though.

Freedom of speech says that nobody should be threatened by their views and opinions, religious beliefs and identity. Threatening you because you are DID, because you express your opinions of "this is not fair what happened to me", this is going against freedom of speech.

Sending a fudgeton of moral support your way.

--Zami--

We generally don't allow couples to both be on PF, period. Either a joint account (big no-no; you're not playing 'guess which one of us it is' with posts), or separate accounts- and that even goes for couples that are tight with each other- it still breaks the anonymity- since you know who you each are- and it invites drama. Not to mention, feeling less free to speak your mind.

An ex coming in behind an established member in good standing, when they've done nothing (like foolishly calling their ex out by name- our privacy/anonymity rules extend to anyone connected with PF members, not just the members themselves) to draw attention to themselves, is not going to be well received with the moderation team. Whoever was here first- and that's you, Sarandipity- has dibs on PF. Anyone else is going to get voted off the island, if the mod team is satisfied as to proofs that any member's ex, current, momma, daddy, precious baby boy, whatever- has also come in and joined. If it's inadvertent, it will be gentle and apologetic- if it's purposely to 'check up on', or 'argue their side'- intentional, in other words, well, it won't be so gentle. We won't have our members harassed harangued, argued with, cajoled with- personal drama won't be spilling over into what's supposed to be a safe place.

I just want to back up what Snaga said . If anyone feels like they are being stalked , harassed or believes they have been followed here by someone they know in real life , please contact Johnny-Jack or any other Mod who might be online at the time . As a public forum , there are limits to what we can do but we will try our best to provide you with a safe place to share your thoughts and get support when you need it .