Our new Journey thread (Ponyta)

Aw, hugs! We're so sorry you're having to go through this terrible waiting game.

Thanks Snaga!

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Well it happened today, we got the call. Very sad. Don't know what else to say. We don't feel like ourselves at all right now. So incredibly sad.

Our sympathies to you...

There really nothing to say, but he's not hurting, nor is he suffering now.

How old was he?

If you were very close, expect to not feel like yourselves. When my mother died, I was very numb for a long time.

We're really sorry about your loss, Ponyta.

MDs

We are sorry about your loss and offer our most sincere sympaties.

If we may ask, what were your favourite memories with your grandpa? Sometimes, celebrating the happy memories help dealing with the loss. (Sometimes it does not so we completely understand if you are not willing/ready/in the mood to talk about it.)

Take care of yourselves.

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Wrath.

Thank you Snaga, MDs, and Wrath! We greatly appreciate your kind words!

Sorry it took so long for us to reply. We haven't been feeling like ourselves. We've been VERY SAD, and have no energy/motivation really to do much. Almost all of us were isolating in the inner world, but some of us are beginning to come back around (hanging out with each other). We still are very sad though. To answer a few questions: He was 97. One of our favorite memories was singing songs with him. Our grandpa was a really good violin player. He could play other instruments too.

We're not as bad as we were (Grief Wise). For awhile we all isolated from each other pretty much.That was REALLY BAD. We're beginning to come back together again, but we still aren't doing good. Still very sad, and just don't feel right at all. Very numb, and very (not even sure what word to use to describe this feeling) I'll say weak, but it doesn't seem like the right word. We just feel like doing nothing, but yet, doing nothing is so boring. It's a dilemma. We don't want to do anything, but yet at the same time we feel we must do something. It's like But what? We thought about playing our videogame, but right now we have our musical instrument in the road, and we haven't been able to look at that because we were trying to learn it to play it for him, and now

It's all so sad.

Sorry if we don't write for awhile, we're just not doing so good. We greatly appreciate the kind words though. Thank you for them!

Unfortunately, we can't stay in this world forever. No apologies to us needed sweetie- take your time, sometimes Time is what we need. You were obviously very close to him, and between your memories, and his age- it sounds as if he had what I call a Good Life. I hope the memories of him comfort you though your grief.

It can be hard to let go. I understand the numbness- it was that way for us when our mom died unexpectedly. I don't know that it ever completely goes away, but it does get better.

Ponyta wrote:very (not even sure what word to use to describe this feeling) I'll say weak, but it doesn't seem like the right word.

Not weak. Little, maybe? When our mom died- I felt so... little. Like 'A Little', if you want to put it in terms used in this forum. My mommy was gone, and I felt like a powerless, lost little boy.

Hugs, if wanted.