New Year's Resolutions for your system???

Sarandipity wrote:We take Halloween to be the New Year or Chinese New Year to be the New Year. We do something for the Romans made up new year - watch fireworks - but more than that we see as unnecessary.

Halloween and Chinese New Year are based on seasonal changes and calculations. We do not feel the Roman calender is based enough on either to follow it in spirit. Our overall spirit therefore follows a Druid based calendar but we respect the Chinese in their calculations as their new year falls at another constillational point of the natural calendar. They are in a different part of the world so that is why and there maths reflects that.

I really don't want to say the above but the twins are insisting on sharing it.

So I'd like to wish you all a happy new year and much luck in your resolutions and somebody said "may the force be with you" I hate star wars. Anyway much luck.

Had to laugh at the Star Wars quote! A past relative had their birthday on May 4th and got absolutely fed up with all the 'May the 4th be you' jokes every year!

I (Sioux) am not much of a sci-fi fan, Kit's a 'die-hard Trekkie' and considers it disloyal to even think about Star Wars as opposed to Star Trek..lol! She completely identifies with Spock and Data and any other Vulcan/Android whose name escapes me at the minute!) ..oh I'm being told the female vulcan T'Pol is a particular favourite! (I've no idea who that is, so please wait for Kit to come back to ask her if you're absolutely desperate to know..lol!! )

Anyway I'm off for a bit I've managed to get a date out of the boiler guy, now to get started on tidying the kitchen so they can get to it! ..one down, one to go (for Jan appointments at least!)

Sioux

I love collaboration messages for reason I can't define. Especially when they sound random AF. I mean the way how Sarandipity people wrote.

I'm not sure do I, I think it's the Jules guy, whoever Jules it is that's teening up my life. They go without names now. They used to have pretty organized system and we had names and things made sense, but now they just wanna be whoever they happen to be and don't want names, don't wanna identify with anything. It's also pretty random, I think they like random.

Anyway, the subject, I promised to start to pay more attention again and lower medication to able others come thru more, cause I was slipping back to where I was before. Did that, now I'm partly someone else all the time. It's cool tho.

Our goal this year is to get everyone in our system to front. All 76 (others if we find more) of us being in control of the body at some point or other, as long as we're not forcing anyone. Well, maybe not Sphinx, that's not a plus.

In order to avoid pushing anyone who's not willing, we want to work on their issues or trauma enough to allow them to feel safe coming out. This includes those of us who have fronted since we found out about the DID but who haven't done that in a long time.

Well over half of us have been in control of the body at some point in the past few years. It's by far the best method of helping them realize where and when (the present, not the past) they are and of us getting to know who they are and what they're like, so we can better welcome and support them.

In our system, we haven't found anything that comes remotely close to healing an alter like fronting. Luckily our system doesn't lose time and Sphinx provides a solid "disaster-prevention" mechanism so there's no concern about someone doing something they shouldn't or doing something at the wrong place or time.

Johnny-Jack wrote:Our goal this year is to get everyone in our system to front. All 76 (others if we find more) of us being in control of the body at some point or other, as long as we're not forcing anyone. Well, maybe not Sphinx, that's not a plus.

In order to avoid pushing anyone who's not willing, we want to work on their issues or trauma enough to allow them to feel safe coming out. This includes those of us who have fronted since we found out about the DID but who haven't done that in a long time.

Well over half of us have been in control of the body at some point in the past few years. It's by far the best method of helping them realize where and when (the present, not the past) they are and of us getting to know who they are and what they're like, so we can better welcome and support them.

In our system, we haven't found anything that comes remotely close to healing an alter like fronting. Luckily our system doesn't lose time and Sphinx provides a solid "disaster-prevention" mechanism so there's no concern about someone doing something they shouldn't or doing something at the wrong place or time.

76!!!!!! Crikey!!! Is it possible to get 76 alters fronting at once??? or did you mean for them to take turns? (though thats still ALOT of different personalities coming out) I can't even begin to imagine that! Especially as we seem to have struggled just to get 2 to work together over the most recent years!

It seems to have taken us forever just to wrap our head round the concept of 6! I guess there maybe more, some memories have re-emerged from childhood of 'others' from Daisy and Bobby's memories but the current adult alters are unsure as to whether they are memories of 'imaginery childhood friends' or were the first experimentation/development of alters. (as none of them have existed since childhood and seem to only be part of the child alters memories).

For us our alters seemed to appear for a very specific role/part of life to help the 'severely autistic core self' get through that part of their life, so maybe that's just it for us and how our system works? I guess once things settle down and we see who seems to be centre-stage for 'fronting' on a regular basis then they will be the one's 'the system 'has decided is right for the next phase of the bodies life!!

One at a time, not all together, lol! We get a certain type of headache when there are 3 or 4 even near the front at the same time, which happens occasionally in therapy. My adopted son's system has ~250 alters and I've interacted with a majority. Both of us early on knew of only a handful but now, of course, this many is normal for us.

Very true that every system will have its own needs and what benefits one may not work at all in another. Enough posters have said that encouraging alters to front has generally helped those heal that I feel it's useful for some systems.