I am worry about my GF

Hi my name is Jacob,

I dont have DID but my girl friend does. We know each other about two weeks and I know I love her soo much. She pulled me out from my deep strugling of my live being. She told me the most of the system likes me but there is one girl that hates me because i accidently end her relationship. Only 3 of 20 of them likes their ex boy friend and rest of them likes me and I like them all.

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My probleme is, that the one girl which hates me, turned into persecutioner and starts cutting the body. We were chatting (me and persecutioner) a few hours ago and then I saw her tied and from blood with bloody open wounds... I am really scared... I want to protect them but this one girl... I dont know what to do at this moment. I really want be her friend but it looks like she doesnt want be my friend.

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My fear rised when my GF told me that this was first time when the persecutioner came out that fast, usually it lasts a few months but now it wasnt even two weeks and that fact she was tied was also first time...

I really worried about her... Please help me, send me your advices, I will be glad for every opinion.

Thank you for every help.

Is you GF seeing a T(therapist)? This is their realm and area of expertise. I applaud you for getting to know your GF's system and you can provide support and positive interactions. But you can't be the one to fix things. That is up to her/them working with a T.

I agree with above.

You can't fix them. It's their job to work this inside their system, and hopefully they have therapist to help them to do that. You can't and never should control behavior of any part, unless it's someone killing themself and you're the only one to physically stop it. But mentally, trying to do anything than what you have done, is not your job, responsibility or fault, or safe to try.

For them,trying to be in relationship that causes that much stress in system, tells they're not stable enough to have a relationship. If you wanna keep waiting for them is your choice, but I can't tell you how long it'll take. Weeks, months, years? You can't provide me info for me to even guess.

When there's someone, even one part of the system, who hurts others and blames it on you, it's manipulative AF and not a place for you to be in. They may not mean to be manipulative, but they still are, and that's not fine. You can't actually cause that. Their trauma is something that was done to them by other people long time ago, that's why they are the way they are, so unstable. That's why fixing it can take time. It's not your fault and in the end not about you at all. I don't know who they tried to hurt, themself, other system members, you or all mentioned. How ever it was, showing it to you is not fair.

Do not blame yourself for actions someone else did. Your GF needs professional help. You can not be that. If they wanna come in here and have views how to work with it, they're welcome. Many of us have parts that are hurting.

Get to those feelings of the ones who do treat you well. Remember a switch can happen at any time, but don't get to a point of questioning every budget of the body and environment that can mean trouble