I'm so confused *trigger warning*

You already told all this before. Its up to you to change your situation. We cant do that for you. There's always a choise now that your an adult. When you were a child it was different, then you were a victim, now you act like one.
This was my last anwer to this thread.

Ok, so I'm literally a kid because I don't have proper resources. I live in group home. I get literally maybe 60 dollars a month. 40 goes to my phone which i need to be able to contact my family. The rest my mom keeps for clothing and glasses for me. To see someone every week would be at least 480 dollars a month. I don't have it. People get mad when I don't listen to their advice. Their are other opinions that I may not be DID even on this thread. I have no idea who is right and wrong. What are talking about I am acting immature and like a victim when I do not have proper resources and there is pro bono cases her in the U.S. where I live. The free clinics here have no DID trained therapist. I have no other options.

This is going to be my last post on this thread.

Rive....

NONE of us can dx you. PERIOD. No person in ANY forum can say one way or the other your dx. That is what your doctor is for. No doctor would dx you based on a chat in a forum and I highly doubt anyone you've spoken to is a doctor.

I have not once said you do have DID, YOU said you were dxed with DID, so I have been replying based on the dx from a DOCTOR, and you said the person who did dx you was a specialist. Your current T is not a specialist, and I would hazard a guess, not a doctor actually capable of a dx.

There's a reason why an officially dx cannot be given by anyone who hangs out a therapist shingle; there's no medical training/requirements unlike what a psychiatrist, who is a trained, medical professional. We are not, you are not. Period.

Rive I'm gonna explain this an then I'm gonna leave this thread because it is getting way too trigering.

Whether you beleive your impuses are DID/voices/urges/deamons doesnt realy matter as long as you try to help resolve the problem with empathy.

Avoid,explain,replace is officially called "Acceptance and substitution therapy" it is used in the uk for DID, PTSD and Scitzophrenia.

It is used whenever a socially inappropriate behavior manifests. That could be deliberate (thorne abusing animals) or accidental.

For the sake of the example I shall use the accidental.

Behavior:- Your little LOVES football, wants to be a linebacker when they grow up, LOVES football so much that when you happen across some kids playing ball the little takes over and joins in the game. LOVES football so much you find yourself hanging round outside little legue practices. This has lead to rumors in the neighborhood. No one has accused you of pedophilia but people are starting to treat you differently. If this behavior continues you could end up being acosted by vigilantees.

This is NOT the littles fault. It is however dangerous. so....

AVOID: Avoid parks etc when there is a chance of bumping into kids. Instead wait until all the kids are safely in school before you take a walk in the park.

EXPLANE: If you happen to come across kids remember you are (for the moment) in control of the body. Turn around walk the other way AND explane to your little that it is against the rules to play with kids you dont know. Then Rive this is the important part LISTEN to their reply. If the little asks why explain that there are bad people out there who play with children so they can get them alone and hurt them. That these people are very good at hiding so to protect them the rule is that NO grown ups are allowed to play with kids that they dont know. That although little isnt a grown up they live inside a grown up body so outside people think that little is a grown up. Tell little that you know it is not fair but you dont want little or the children to get hurt.

REPLACE: Immediately reward a little with an alternative. eg. "you have been so good not playing with those boys even though you really wanted to. Because you have been so good you can choose a comic." Then look into a long term replacement. Is there an adults football game you could join? Could you get a computer game about football? Could you collect football cards? Is there someone in the group home you could play football with?


By rewarding the little for not acting on their urge you encourage restraint. By finding a long term replacement you meet the need of the little.

Thank you

Locking this thread.