Triggered by all the bad therapists in the world **TW**

LKinney wrote:
This is what I mean by regulation, and, yes, for sure, each country would have to have a way. But then we've never been impressed by any medical care we've ever received ever, so, I wouldn't say doctors as a whole are regulated much either because they regulate themselves.

They don't in here, but explaining how our country works would be very OT. We don't have it like it's in US, where even the basic schools are divided to bad ones and good ones. They're all free in here, and they're all good. Our whole education system is free, also uni, also to foreign students, it's all very different. It would be weird to recommend your doctor to someone in here, because they're all doctors. You don't have to work to find a good one. That's almost free as well, our trip to eye-hospital on Tuesday cost about 30 euros. We had two nurses and two docs treating us that day. It's not based on insurances, I don't have any kind of insurance.

I can't speak to America, I don't live there. There's bad doctors everywhere. There's no profession without people lousy at their jobs. Just passing school doesn't mean you're good at your job. Or maybe you're not a terrible doctor, but the system makes you be one, much like teaching. There are all sorts of things outside my control that literally make it impossible for me to be truly good at my job because it's physically and mentally impossible: I do what I can, where I can, but there will always be kids that I miss/can't get to/etc.

But a T should be the one to tell someone when they are not qualified to help them properly. From what so many here have said, that doesn't always seem to be what they do. And, as I said, when one first decides to go, it's overwhelming: where do you start? It's not like when you go to a general doctor who checks on you and then refers you where you need to go, and it can't entirely be that regardless because, wow, no way would LKinney have just spilled her guts to some rando we'd only see for a short period - there's no trust there.

I hardly know the answer here, but a lack of oversight and regulation does seem to be an area of concern.

I live on the East Coast of the U.S. and the particular state I live in has very few trained DID therapists.

I'm so triggered by bad therapists that I have almost forgotten what therapists are for. I stopped looking because I think it's a stressful waste of time. IMO Rive might be better off having no therapist at all than dealing with an untrained knucklehead who is like, "you have a core personality that's good." ###$.

I agree 100% that bad therapy is much worse than no therapy.

TheGangsAllHere wrote:I agree 100% that bad therapy is much worse than no therapy.

We agree as well. We've left bad or mediocre therapists many times. We went to our first one when the body was about 12. Had a few that were okay but probably not equipped to get to the root of our problems and work with us effectively for the long-term. And more unhelpful ones sprinkled in.

It wasn't until the body was 36, two years after we realized that we were multiple, that we found our first really good long-term T. She retired after we'd been seeing her for five and a half years. We were disappointed that she was retiring, but she did first refer us to our current T, who we've been seeing for 15 and a half years. In the long run the change was a good thing, because our current T is a far better fit for where we've gone in our healing.

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