Is it possible to be so disconnected

Is it even possible to be so disconnected from your alters that they dont come out, just are mentioned? A couple of nights ago I was thinking about my niece and how she is a month old and I haven't seen her. Someone popped up and said I dont trust Matthew. I know no one by that name. I can't possibly think of another disorder that would manifest itself this way. I also think I can't have these 30 alters I have with them not coming out. I dont understand this at all. Are my amnesia walls just high? Is it just random names popping out for no reason (random thoughts)?

I have heard it being called "comments from the peanuts raw". And yes, some alters are not "see-able" by every others, and some are just so well hidden it takes years to discover them, and sometimes we never meet them.

Yes, it happens.

If the voices bother you though, it is an issue to be addressed - and here I do not know how to help you.

~Theia~

What do you mean by comments by the peanut gallery?

I mean that it is how the voices you hear coming from seemingly nowhere, are sometimes called.

Source: https://kinhost.org/Main/PeanutGalleries

To simply answer you question: yes.

I had therapy in 2007. Group therapy, three days per week. On Monday a group member disclosed something disturbing. On Wednesday I didn't I have a clue what anyone was talking about. The group was furious. I realised I had a serious problem. I realised I wasn't in the group Monday - obviously I was physically in the group.

Then I had 1-1 therapy. The twins came out and had a go at the therapist. She said something antagonistic. They said "ok so you think it'd be better if we just weren't here" she said yes. I don't know if she was antagonising them to get more out of them or if she actually didn't want them in therapy but they thought about "not being there" how they could be there but not be there. They went subconscious. They ran everything. I forgot all about them until our bf upset Rose and Patrick couldn't be bothered to deal with the problem between Rose and the bf so he said "f it. Wake up the twins" and she did and I joined this forum shortly after that. Since the hospital I barely hear from the twins. They are the most destructive force in my psyche if they're "awake" They will occasionally say something but they're not "here" if that makes sense, they're somewhere way back in the mind. And it's better like that. This time I will remember they're there. I called a conference meeting and they turned up for that so they are reachable but they're not "here" They're like an echo in the mind.

When I had "you're doomed" going round and round in my head I only found out who it was because I wondered. A window opened up and I saw Mr Brightside walking in circles. I only know who he is because before the twins left they showed me him and his world, they rescued No-one from his world - where they had left her. They brought back Paul and Lilly. And now they're gone, asleep or far away in the mind. They said they're aliens and they took their spaceship home - but they're massive on metaphors and they hate outside life and humans but they did say they're here whenever we need them, they can just fly back.

So yes you can be that disconnected.

Not every name that pops up has to be an alter. Their can be one or maybe a few more alters that talk about names. I dont know.. You have to get this adressed in therapy to find out how it works for you.
I was thinking about you today and the many questions and doubts you have because of something that happened with my alters and psychiatrist.
I had an appointment 2 weeks ago and a child alter shared a trauma memory with her. Today I had another appointment and there was a voice in my head since the beginning of the week saying "I slept on the floor at the psychiatrist". Which for me was something I could not place so i said to "myself" thats not true. But then the part got angry and said it was True! So I emaild P and today i talked about it with P and how it looked in my head, how the images that came with the voice looked and she said that I was on the floor when the child alter came out with the trauma memory. I wasnt aware of that.
So its very likely that the part who said she slept in the office of P was right in her perspective and did fall asleep during the memory that was shared by the other child alter. To me its more clear now where the scentence is coming from and why its being said.
What im trying to say is, that if you are willing to work with the voices and what is said is can make more sense even if its not real in your head, its real in the head of another part of you and it can be totally something else than what you think.

Cool I understand that but why would one or more alters be mentioning names if they arent alters also? Maybe a childhood friend they knew? Is that what you mean?

Maybe, or they had imaginary friends or something they have seen on tv.. And maybe they are all alters. Im not saying its not possible, just trying to say that for you it ma be "jibberish" but to them its reall whatever it is. Its hard work figuring it all out.

Just got out of my psychiatric appt. My psychologist, therapist and medical doctor have all diagnosed me DID. My psychiatric np just diagnosed me that as well but said the names could be obsessive thinking. I'm so tired of this sh*t. I'm in denial anyway then I dont think I'm in denial just dont have DID then he says sh*t that just adds to my confusion.

This is a little bit of what I was saying. Maybe it is obsessie thinking and/but coming from a part.. Just like a repetetive song comes from a part. Try to work with it instead of against it.