met a new alter & system rules

Hello people of the internet,
I‘ve only recently become aware of our multiplicity and before monday i was only aware of one alter. Since i‘ve been diagnosed I‘ve been trying to get in contact with my headmates, by talking to them/myself outloud and reassuring them we are safe now and that i am excited to meet them.

and on monday it worked! i met an alter I didn‘t know about before! I‘m going to share my experience:

The night before I explained DID to my best friend and told her that I‘d protect my littles with all my power, to which she responded: so will I. Thats when I first noticed a little voice expressing their gratitude. I told my best friend that it made one little come close
The next morning i woke up and cuddled with my boyfriend, we talked about DID and he started ticklig me, which triggered an alter to come forth. I kind of just understood what was happening, so I decided to let her have control of the body. She introduced herself to my boyfriend by saying „i‘m young“, which he understood immediately. She wanted to go to the stores with my boyfriend and i stayed co-conscious the whole time. Or I think it was co-conscious. I always knew what she was going to do, i kind of heard her thoughts, if I had wanted to I could have probably taken control of the body again (but I decided that she also deserves to use the body), i knew what she was feeling and thinking but not 100%, like I knew her general emotions and what she was going to say, but didn‘t know her deeper thoughts/thoughts behind actions. It‘s still difficult for me to grasp that alters are seperate fully formed people and that I of course can‘t know their entire thoughts/feelings/perceptions, but I guess thats okay, I just need more time.
What would you think, was this co-fronting or co-conscious?
A little bit about the alter I met: She/her is about 6-9 years old, she doesn‘t have a name yet, she is very happy and understands that she is part of a system. She‘s very understanding and tried to not overwhelm my boyfriend with new info. (My boyfriend feels like an older friend to her) She recalled a memory to my boyfriend that I now know about too Her favourite colour is pink and (I expressed my concerns regarding tattoos I got before I knew about my DID) thinks that the tattoos don‘t matter as this body is all wrong for her anyways. She feels like unadulterated joy I‘ve written her a letter asking her to name herself and about some system guidelines I‘ve set. I mostly included ways to protect the littles (they shouldn’t front unless they‘ve been given the OK by an adult) and a few lines about equality. Do you have system guidelines? If yes would you like to share some with us?

I hope you all are having a calm day <3

I dont know what you would call it but my alters come out and I am aware but I have no memory of my trauma to know what their specific thoughts are about why they come out. I just know I had trauma because I was sent to a therapist at age 8 for some very disturbing things I was feeling and doing. As far as guidelines thats only something I recently learned was a thing.

I think it is awesome to have such great support in your best friend and boyfriend. Also, nice that your little came out and you got to be with her. I am not sure about guidelines as we have not set any up yet, as our awareness is kind of new too. If you have a T they can probably help guide you in this as well.