Routine/Schedule Idea (Non-Host Opinions, please) {\P/}

Johnny-Jack wrote:hey, I bet that could work. That's cool. Are you gonna give it a try? Too many of us to do that exactly plus the guys work so we can eat and stuff. But we got to do better at sharing than we do. We young guys hog most of the home time. Like a machine, we can't help it. I mean we do chores and stuff too,
Hoyt

We are gonna give it a try... yeah... Some of the time will be open for some of us a little more than others at diff times- like cartoons time is sooooo for the younger ones... we know of one 11'ish part (Chloe), and some of us have "kids" but we're not sure if they're littles or parts of us when we "aged" to get older inside, or like whatever... But this is a good way to help find out, right?

If nothing else, it totally gives us a little more time out than we've had typically and some like sorta "normal" daily like life and routine to get a better sense of "life" for us- most of us have spent MOST of our time (if not entirely) inside. Since we're trying to get more connected, more communication, etc... this could be a big help with that process, too.

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ItsJustUs wrote:For a while we had a schedule of sorts. It wasn't a daily schedule. But....

At one point during the time we were dating our husband, and even for a few months after we got married. and we only saw him on weekends. Each person in our system has some sort of relationship with him, and a particular someone was always worried she wasn't going to get to see him, or someone else was going to get more time than her... and whoever he spent the most time with, well it was OBVIOUSLY because he loved her more, yada yada yada.

So, we came up with a rotating schedule to make sure everyone got a chance to spend equal time with him. And then during the week we always did a "long distance movie date," where we would watch the same movie on Netflix or from RedBox, while on the phone. So each week a different person would get to do the date night with him. The bedtime phone call was also on a scheduled rotation.

So, while it's not exactly the same thing as your schedule, it was a schedule, and it worked. After we moved home the schedule went out the window, because there is way more time with him now. But recently the little complained that she doesn't get to see him that much because "too much big stuffs to do." So starting this week we're implementing a schedule for her. Regardless of who comes out when, she will always get Tuesday night with him.

It works.

I think you should give the schedule a try, with the open mind that it can be changed if someone feels it isn't working, or can be flexible and realize that sometimes the schedule won't work if something unexpected comes up.

I think it's great that y'all are working together to make sure everyone's needs are met.

Also, how are things going with the wife? Better, I hope!

K

So it's going like super slow... kinda "ok" that we are like here, mentions us time to time, but so not ready to like get to know us, much less spend time with us yet, sooooo.... IDK...

We're working on it, slowly but surely.

And this "schedule" is super loose and like "guidelines" not like hardcore time specific limiting stuff.

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