Feeling stuck and paralyzed

We have a few sayings...

How do you eat an elephant?

and

Eat the bullfrog!

How do you eat an elephant? Means how do you do complete what seems a big task, little by little. Like you would eat an elephant, bit by bit. Doable lists help in this, ticking off what you have done and move them to next day what you didn't manage to achieve. Sometimes some tasks take longer than first thought. But it is important not to get anxious over not managing to do a task set for that day. It can be done the next day.

Eat the bullfrog! Means what you hate doing most, the thought of doing it is horrible, do that task first, get it out of the way. For us, it would be a phone call.

We have found lists very helpful, it also helps to have things written down. In case myself, or another takes over from Purple Haze, then we know what needs to be done.

- Autumn J

Hi there, I am back, the paralyzed-me

I worry too much. I worry about everything. Feels like worries are eating me alive from the inside. I worry about failing, about disappointing people and I worry so much, that I stop doing anything. Which leads to actual failure and disappointment.

So, I guess, I see a source of my problem. But it is easy to say: "just not worry." and hard to actually stop your brain from doing it. Don't know how to do it. Sometimes I have the thoughts that it would be am actual relief to be hit by a train by accident or something. Because it would stop this cycle of being stuck and worry more and more about this situation which only makes you more stuck.
Not sure if the train-thoughts are mine, or those of the part who once tried to cause such an "accident". Luckily (ironically) I am myself way too paralyzed to do something on my own.

Muninn wrote:I worry too much. I worry about everything. Feels like worries are eating me alive from the inside. I worry about failing, about disappointing people and I worry so much, that I stop doing anything. Which leads to actual failure and disappointment.

We have a part that does this. Before I knew she was a part, we would just get taken over by the feelings, believe they were the only true reality, and proceed accordingly. Now, we can usually talk to her and reassure her, and things have improved a lot. There was something recently that really freaked her out, so her feelings were overwhelming us constantly, like they did in the past. It helps for us to imagine a place for her where she can relax and not think about whatever is worrying her. It's not perfect, but it has enabled us to do things that we really enjoy but were too worried to put ourselves out there and participate in.