Difficult Alter

How do you deal with alters you can't yet talk to & complete amnesia for when they are 'in'?

There's at least one floating around here that I can't reach yet.. They've been hiding my things (keys, phone, medicines.. Lost/stolen.. I live in a tiny flat that I've turned upside down.. None of its here.. Keys have been missing a week.. I'm up to my 4th missing box of medication. I'm starting to feel like I'm losing it again)

They also disposed of May's art book which was full of paintings. I have no idea where any of it went. I'm starting to get really frustrated. They also took a whole box of chocolates. Just vanished! I remember exactly where I put them, and there's no evidence of leftovers anywhere

Short of a bower bird robbing me through my window, I'm assuming it was an alter. But no ones owning up.

What to do?
TIA - Steph

Hi Steph,

We have one who can talk but is definitely difficult.

Steph, meet Rachel, one of our bigs.

Rachel:

We'd love to hear what other folks have to say, because it would probably help us too.

Laura, Allegra, and others

Oh, we have a similar alter. He does not front but I need to get in touch with him sometimes in regards to system happenings. He doesn't talk much. I usually need to get to the system overseer first, have them get Serpent in, and tell him about what he needs to know. So my suggestion would be to try to reach them through either a protector or the overseer if you have one. (what I mean by overseer is the alter who decides who fronts and when, has control over other alters and knows where everyone is) - Pi

Hi Pi & Rachel, thank you for sharing.

Our psyc thinks Georgie is a protector/system manager.. However she is only 8 and she's like a little storm trooper. She says she's always watching. It's her job to keep watch.. However she was also the one who threw a huge tantrum punching pillows when she realised 'some one was messing with her head' playing tricks on her (hiding things) She says she can't see them. Has zero knowledge of when they're here. To the point that she's not fully convinced that it's not a ghost or a break in. She's probably the only one that questions weather someone else externally could be responsible for this.

Georgia says she was fighting with TJ when she was punching the pillows. He laughs at her. He wants her to know that he is the real boss.. Maybe he is tormenting George.. Hmm

Having said that, now my reading glasses have been missing for 3 days, and Georgie doesn't even wear glasses so why would TJ take those?

Is there any chance it was an outside person?

Years ago my hair straighteners went missing. Stuff goes missing so I wasn't that concerned about it. It turned out my ex got into my house and took them, he admitted it, he wanted to be annoying. So sometimes it is an outside person. I rule out outside people first now before I start blaming myself.

Put up a few signs in your home and say hi to the one hiding things. Ask them to let you know where the missing items are. Leave space and something to write with and ask them to let you know if and how you can help them or what they need. You'll have better guesses than me about what might work and what might upset them. Most importantly, thank them!

Avoid words like "don't" and such. It may well be a younger alter who doesn't think they're doing something bad, maybe they're seeking attention, maybe they're trying to help from their point of view. Good luck to you and yours, Steph.