by SystemFlo » Wed Feb 20, 2019 8:48 am
I have heard of a drunken part, but I'm not sure how she was helped.
Trigger warning: SA of children, drugs.
That part was a lttle in a system, who had been molested by their dad from young age. There were other parts who remembered the abuse, and one who remembered that the abuser gave them either alcohol or some drugs before molesting. She couldn't walk straight at all or stand really and was really scared because of that, and she didn't know why she was feeling like that or what happened then. She was stuck with the feeling of being drunken and unable to control herself. Trigger warning ends
They were in therapy and I think they did the same thing than with all, helped her to realize this world and that the memory is no longer true. Your part may be different, if she wants to be drunk willingly.
Maybe if you get to know what she is avoiding, you can help her to deal with the feeling some other way. Like giving her some way to vent it out of her, or maybe to understand that the feeling is not true, if it's some traumatic belief. If it's too much all kind of feelings, maybe give them all names, so it doesn't feel uncontrolled pile of everything. Or if it is some memory, maybe she could learn being grounded and control the feeling of it that way, not by avoiding it. Because even if she wants to be drunk, she must understand that as long as she avoids, she must keep running away from the thing. And maybe she does want to be able to let the past stay in past, not chasing her anymore. It's hard to know what helps, when you are not sure what the problem is, and even then it's up to her what she finds relieving.