Desperate for communication

Is communication with your alters something you just have to wait for?

I've had enough communication with them to know they exist, know some of their names and other things, they even told me about some abuse that I wasn't aware of, but I read about people who have such effective and organized ways of communicating that I'm kind of jealous, because I don't like not knowing so much about what's going on.

I haven't been diagnosed, I can't afford therapy, I'm just trying to live my life right now, but it's hard knowing what I know and not being able to do anything about it.

Hello Humanchild, welcome to the forum.

It takes time and patience and practice. And maybe some trial and error.

In our experience, we've found some of us respond best when spoken to aloud. Others only respond with writing. Many are ok with just being 'directly thought at' like sort of telepathy? And communication takes two to do it, so sometimes you try and the others aren't listening or don't want to talk.

One of the first suggestions we got, that helped us a lot, was to start journalling. Or a 'comms' book. Just write some stuff down, as much or as little as you like. Whether a pen and paper book, or could be a file on the computer, whichever you're more comfortable with. Invite the others to use it too. And make sure to put times & dates on stuff you write in there.

We use pen & paper because it can't be deleted or edited, and we also have distinct handwriting so we can see when different alters have been using it.

We've also found the forum here to be a great resource, there are loads of helpful friendly people here with lots of knowledge and experience.

Good luck.

Arin

I agree with Arin, Purple Haze has recently started to use the journal method and it works well for us. We like writing in it. Though some have said that they will never write in it.

We hope that you will be able to communicate with your alters soon. What we think is important is to find a way that works. Yes ideas are shared here but we understand that they may not work for everyone. But we think that it will do no harm to try.

- Joker & Jester

Hello and welcome to the forum!

I felt that way too...at first. I knew about the others....but we weren't very close. We didn't have good communication either. I would lose time horribly. The thing that helped the most... was keeping a journal.

I kinda dismissed it at first....because I really didn't feel like writing in a journal....I didn't think the others would either.....but I'm glad I made one. Some of the guys refused to write at first....but over time they became closer and decided to write. Now our inner communication is much better. We still use the journal....but not as much now.....since our inner communication is so good.

I also put a list of general questions for them to answer....if they wished to do so. Like what's your favorite color, animal, etc. Some of them answered. It was interesting reading what they wrote. Finding that information out.....also helped with getting to know them better. It gave me something to talk to them about. Which helped build trust.

Hope you're able to have improved communication... with the others soon! Good luck!

Thank you guys!

I suspected I had DID or something similar for a while, and then one night not too long ago, I was hit with a massive amount of intense childhood memories that I can't even remember now, and then woke up to all that information in the notes app in my phone.

I am happy that they told me they're there, it just went almost silent after that, and it frustrated me. I'll give the journal thing a go, hopefully I can get something from them.

Hi Humanchild!

Welcome

I agree with the advice stated above. I would recommend trying different channels: writing, talking aloud, thinking to a part, drawing, making something out of clay, choosing songs to communicate a feeling/thought, and/or leaving notes.

Good luck! They may want to take things slow?