Writing a letter to other parts

Surely, it makes remarkable sense to me. In fact, in your research time whenever that is whomever it is , will seem just like friendly interactions

Very similar to everyone's. We have a note book and several packages colored pens for little boy to express himself. I'll sometimes ask him specific questions.

Exploring wrote:This will really depend on your background, but personally I'd be careful with phrases like "I'll trade you X for it", "If you show / give me X, I will show / give you Y" and so on, simply because they resemble phrases often used in abusive contexts or grooming. But again, really depends. If phrases like that were never used to hurt him, that may be completely fine.

I'll rethink this one- you're right, it's reminiscent of foot in the door type tactics, definitely want to steer clear of that with him.

IainEtc wrote:You got good intentions but be careful not to mess with the system too much. Protectors can come out and shut it all down real fast. We don't like mess or loose memories. It takes a while to get our trust so move slow.

Colin

Thank you for the advice. This leads me to a question-There are 2 or 3 protectors I am aware of. Lately their presence comes out almost instantaneously after a child part and a very sexual part come out or even just makes a comment. The protectors have an extremely resilient and tough presence, whereas the child is very hurt and sad and the sexual part is either very full of energy or depressed or self-injurious. The protective parts feel very secure, but cause dissociation and identity alteration..Do you think this sounds like the system is being messed with too much?

Everybodies wrote:Very similar to everyone's. We have a note book and several packages colored pens for little boy to express himself. I'll sometimes ask him specific questions.

Seems like the note book is a very good way of identifying and making sense of "which part is in control when" and also their internal dialogue when they are inside..would you agree? There is a tremendous amount of internal dialogue coupled with identity issues here (I used to think it was body dysmorphia, now I realize it is more accurately identity alteration)

walden wrote: This leads me to a question-There are 2 or 3 protectors I am aware of. Lately their presence comes out almost instantaneously after a child part and a very sexual part come out or even just makes a comment. The protectors have an extremely resilient and tough presence, whereas the child is very hurt and sad and the sexual part is either very full of energy or depressed or self-injurious. The protective parts feel very secure, but cause dissociation and identity alteration..Do you think this sounds like the system is being messed with too much?

I don't know what you mean. Do you mean that there are too many external things messing with your system right now, so the protectors have to be more active than usual? Of course protectors are going to take over if they feel like things are unsafe. Where is that happening that they come out right away after the child part or sexual part come out? If it's during therapy, then it sounds like there isn't sufficient trust established with the T yet for the system to allow those vulnerable parts to interact with the T. (The same would be true for whatever situation they're coming out in).