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ItsJustUs wrote:Wow, Pixie.

Gonna reply in parts, cuz it's easier to not miss stuff- sorry if it's like a nightmare to reply quoting me back (if it is, let me know and I like won't do it anymore).

{\Pixie/}

ItsJustUs wrote:1. It sounds like Zor is very lucky to have you handle things while he is away. You did a very good job and we're proud of you (if that matters, seeing as how you do not know us).

Awww, thank you! <3 And yeah he is like totally lucky, cuz I am like totally awesome!
As for like covering in like that situation... well someone like had to do something or like NOTHING would have happened, and I was like trying to do the best I could, and I didn't MIND being out, but it was a bit much and stressful after a bit- How do "singletons" do that like all day every day?!

ItsJustUs wrote:2. The wife... *sigh*.... I agree. She is uncomfortable, and that is understandable. May I ask, is it simply that it's "someone else" that is in there with Zor that makes her uncomfortable? Or is it the fact that you are a girl and Zor is a man, and she cannot deal with the gender issue? Or is it a mix of both?

So like far as I can tell it's both. She has like SERIOUS issue with us like wanting clothes and stuff for us, as girls- even like leggings and stuff... and even though we totally promised to like keep it away from like when she's around so she won't have to like look at it or deal with it.
But also it's that we're here at all. She's like "I married you (him), not them" and like "I don't wanna have a relationship with them..." and stuff like that. I think it's like super hard to come to terms with the fact that we'll always exist and always have.

ItsJustUs wrote:3. Do you and Zor (or others in your system) see a therapist? If so, has he (or you) invited her to attend a therapy session with you all?

We do, and I have talked to him once directly, I came out and spoke person to person with him. He's new to like DID stuff (never dealt with it before), but he's like learning and like researching, so that's good. He has like talked to her a time or two, and said she's willing to come in... but mostly it's been like just us. I HOPE that maybe this next time we see him (was supposed to be like this morning but it was cancelled cuz he was like sick or something) that maybe he can like talk to her about like what the future will be with us involved and being more out and stuff, and how like co-con and if we do integration will be like super super long ways off and won't like "get rid of us". Cuz right now she seems confused by it all - and the like long time with us and stuff, seems to be something she doesn't wanna live with or deal with. So, IDK...

ItsJustUs wrote:4. Again, I just want to compliment you on how well you handled a strange and stressful situation. We were relieved when we realized we could stop pretending to be K around our husband. I truly hope you and the wife can work something out. Perhaps you could tell her, "I know this is weird and uncomfortable for you, but it hasn't been easy on me (or us) either. I'd really like you to be able to accept me for me, especially since the trauma that caused this condition within our mind was not our fault, it was abuse that we are working to overcome, and I could really use a friend."

Perhaps put that way, she may see things differently? If it's difficult to say, perhaps you could write her a letter?

Delilah

So like "write her a letter" - funny you say that. Someone like suggested we get a journal thingy for her, one we could like write in to write to her... and Zor got one, so I wrote a little thingy in it to like say I know it's like confusing, scary, and super hard, and there's like anger and hurt and stuff but that I think it'd be good for all of us if we like get talking and get to know each other. She has it, has read it I guess (it's like just a few lines long) and hasn't like written back yet... but she only read it like yesterday morning before going to bed, so it's been like barely 24 hours... we'll see what happens.

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I hope the wife goes to that appointment with you (all).
Maybe it would be good for YOU to be out at that appointment? It is just a thought.
I think it is wonderful that you reached out to the wife through the journal and hopefully she responds.

Delilah

P.s. And do not worry about the multi-quote to respond. K likes to do that as well, for the same reasons.

ItsJustUs wrote:I hope the wife goes to that appointment with you (all).
Maybe it would be good for YOU to be out at that appointment? It is just a thought.
I think it is wonderful that you reached out to the wife through the journal and hopefully she responds.

Delilah

P.s. And do not worry about the multi-quote to respond. K likes to do that as well, for the same reasons.

Getting her to be there some time IS part of the plan. I just hope she's willing to. Mostly the doctor has been working with us, myself and the others (Pixie, for example) that are willing to show up there. However, it's been very little with my wife there... It's something I think that needs to happen at some point, but she's not a "talk to someone" kind of person, she prefers (by her own words) to "process things internally"... but we all know that can only work to a point and after a certain point... and IDK she's where that can really begin to happen, much less to a point where it'll be highly effective yet.

Zor wrote:

ItsJustUs wrote:I hope the wife goes to that appointment with you (all).
Maybe it would be good for YOU to be out at that appointment? It is just a thought.
I think it is wonderful that you reached out to the wife through the journal and hopefully she responds.

Delilah

P.s. And do not worry about the multi-quote to respond. K likes to do that as well, for the same reasons.

Getting her to be there some time IS part of the plan. I just hope she's willing to. Mostly the doctor has been working with us, myself and the others (Pixie, for example) that are willing to show up there. However, it's been very little with my wife there... It's something I think that needs to happen at some point, but she's not a "talk to someone" kind of person, she prefers (by her own words) to "process things internally"... but we all know that can only work to a point and after a certain point... and IDK she's where that can really begin to happen, much less to a point where it'll be highly effective yet.

I get that.
And welcome back!

K

ItsJustUs wrote:I get that.
And welcome back!

K

Thanks.

Zor wrote:So there was like a reply about like loneliness being a theme of that movie... IDK where it went but I replied and it got like an error doing it and when I like reloaded it, that comment was gone.

So like that was a legit point. NEVER even thought of it. I saw like the sci-fi and comedy of the jokes, but totally missed the isolation and loneliness stuff. I wonder if that was something to do with it.

Thanks for that tip... and sorry I missed your name, something "teddybear" I think???

{\Pixie/}

Well, it was me I realized i have only seen short clips of the movie , and got insecure on the movies actual contents. Thats why i erased it.

TeddyBear the helper wrote:
Well, it was me I realized i have only seen short clips of the movie , and got insecure on the movies actual contents. Thats why i erased it.

It's a good movie you should check it out sometime if you can and like not upset things too much inside.

{\Pixie/}