Alter wants to be more physical?

Hey, I've been with my oldest alter since I was able to form coherent thoughts, and we've always been super close -- very few arguments or discourse, we're almost always deep in conversation and she's become a huge part of my life. But sometimes we feel a little too 'close' in proximity to give each other the affection we want to give each other? As in, sometimes it's hard to express how much we appreciate each other when we're both in the same headspace.

She's never really been comfortable with a physical form, so she's always just been a voice. Lately she's been wanting to me more physical, and talks about things like being 'real' and tangible, she wants to do things I'd do with my regular friends and is often wanting physical affection. She fronts often, but usually isn't comfortable with certain aspects of the outside world (hates shoes and communicating with people, lol). Is there anything we could do to either fix this issue or learn to become comfortable with the closeness? This is a bit of a strange question since we've been together for a few decades and should've learned to cope with it by now, but I was hoping someone would have a definite answer.

I really think it's going to just be her putting herself out there a little at a time to "practice." Doing it repeatedly is really the only way to get used to it and comfortable with it.

K

Maybe you can set her up with things that would me more comfortable. Hates shoes, what about sandals?

Do you have issues with affection or other things she wants?

SOHank wrote:Maybe you can set her up with things that would me more comfortable. Hates shoes, what about sandals?

Do you have issues with affection or other things she wants?

Some of mine that are female (body is male) have asked for clothing for that very purpose- to begin to feel more comfortable "out" and to connect more with me- we are trying to work towards a more cooperative existence, hopefully co-consciousness... and if that goes well, we're going to discuss and consider integration if it is something we're all ok with.