Learning to allow co-consciousness

NyxX wrote:I think he learnt how to go to sleep a little to well, some things we learnt to cope we learnt a little to well as well and it's really hard to try to fix things because I end up realising after I've already responded that I'm supposed to try something different.

Would him learning it too well make me that awesome a teacher or him that awesome a student... or both? LOL

Definitely something we've gotta like work on.

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Dunno if this would help, but for older Violet, when she had 'lost time' cos one of the rest of us was out, she wasn't inside, but in the 'void' that separates inside and out.

For our system, the void (aka the in-between) can be sort of endless and if you go deep into it, time stops and it's like lost time.

I have way less lost-time than she did, but when it does happen to me, I'm in the void as well.

I've learned to be more coconsious though, and it's sorta just practice? But I don't know how to suggest to get started... It's just like, trying to pay attention more?

Like I think, there's sort of a natural (maybe subconsious) reaction that when someone else wants out or comes out, the usual fronter like automatically goes 'offline' because at some level they don't want to know about this.

Even if they say they want to, there can still be some amount of fear or worry about it. So when it happens, it's like they look away? Only instead of turning their eyes or head, their entire consiousness sort of turns away so they don't find out.

So, it's like, getting better at being coconsious for us at least, has involved practicing and learning not to "look away" when someone else is active.

Violet

VioletFlux wrote:Dunno if this would help, but for older Violet, when she had 'lost time' cos one of the rest of us was out, she wasn't inside, but in the 'void' that separates inside and out.

For our system, the void (aka the in-between) can be sort of endless and if you go deep into it, time stops and it's like lost time.

I have way less lost-time than she did, but when it does happen to me, I'm in the void as well.

I've learned to be more coconsious though, and it's sorta just practice? But I don't know how to suggest to get started... It's just like, trying to pay attention more?

Like I think, there's sort of a natural (maybe subconsious) reaction that when someone else wants out or comes out, the usual fronter like automatically goes 'offline' because at some level they don't want to know about this.

Even if they say they want to, there can still be some amount of fear or worry about it. So when it happens, it's like they look away? Only instead of turning their eyes or head, their entire consiousness sort of turns away so they don't find out.

So, it's like, getting better at being coconsious for us at least, has involved practicing and learning not to "look away" when someone else is active.

Violet

That's interesting. I think I might try and like let him know before I come out sometime so he can like try and be more aware of it happening and try and like "hold on" somehow to like be more aware... I figure it can only help if he KNOWS it's gonna happen, so he can like learn what to like listen/feel/look for when he's not told first...

Thanks Violet!

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