Patience

I have a hard time having patience without dissociating from whatever it is I am waiting for. I legitemately tend to forget about it; OR have littles who are constantly nagging about it.

Do other systems deal with this too? Writing this, what comes to mind is that it could have something to do with the window of tolerance... How do people normally learn to have patience? Just from practising, I think? I have no issues with waiting for my turn during games or stuff like that. It's more apparent when I have to wait for something for multiple days or weeks.

Im very patient but a lot of the others arent. My tip would be always giving yourself something to do - some of us like using fidget toys, so if you find myself getting impatient with something (normally waiting for a download) I use one of the fidget toys we have and it helps, because Im keeping busy.
If you have to wait for something over time, you could keep a calendar or a countdown and cross the days off, we're doing that with our cruise that is coming up, and it helps keep the impatient ones patient, because they get to cross off another day (and we have a jar of single serve chocolates that we have one a day when we cross off the calendar so it's like a reward

If you use calendars not only will you not forget, you can reward yourself every day for waiting.

I kinda rambled. Sorry

is it a struggle because of emotions coming up and difficulties to regulate those? like fear, insecurity, shame, things that grow over time when you have to wait?
or more like nothing is happening and so it is hard to stay present because it takes a huge effort not to put the brain on standby?
or something else?

someone I like often says that patience is not the ability to wait. everyone of us has to wait for things. it is how we behave while waiting. so I wonder what is going on inside during that time...

Thank you!

Yes, I think keeping busy is a good solution.

What is underneath all of this? In the recent case it's emotion regulation... I get more and more anxious, ruminate, and that makes it worse.

The "responsible" part just journaled and I wrote back. Maybe communication is the way to go? My emotion regulation skills are OK, but she is more emotionally volatile and has more trouble.

Haven't seen you around for a while, hope you're ok <3

Thank you, it is kind of you to think of me.

Welcome! Good to see you:)