As you maybe aware of you read any of my previous posts. I (Thea) am current main host. The original self (who was born into this body) is trapped at the age of a teenager. Although she's not a 'little child' she had severe autism as a child so her 'emotional age' does not match her 'chronological age'.
When I stepped in/evolved (not sure what the term is for a new alter appearing/been found) Kit was at the stage, she was bright academically in specific areas of interest but had severely over sensitive hearing, was a selective mute and prone to 'meltdowns' if anything unexpected happened.
The physical body is now nearly 50 and she's pretty much the same! The only difference is because we've been so isolated for years due to other issues too she's been able to emerge much more than she had opportunity when we were teens. She's out most of the time at home and I'm usually only around when she's forced to interact with people to deal with life.
She wants to be out in public but hasn't the ability to cope by herself but keeps demanding that she wants more freedom. Her choice for live would be to isolate us further by moving somewhere even more isolated and cutting all contact with 'Maddie's friends (our previous host who I've recently taken over from), keeping contact only with immediate family members. I miss when we were active and had college and work and 'I' had a life and even relationships but then Kit only got to come out for a couple of hours in our bedroom when no-one else was about.
If you have 'littles' - referring here to the 'younger mindset' not been capable of handling all aspects of adult life, how do you balance things out? What makes you decide when they should appear or do they appear on their own or due to a trigger? and how much time they're allowed to stay out before you might need to go back to dealing with adult stuff (cooking, going to work or an appointment where the other person is expecting an adult/certain personality). Basically how do you manage the alters with less ability to understand things from your perspective?
I'm trying to work out how to balance our needs now Kit wants to have more of a life back too.
Thea