by SystemFlo » Fri Aug 17, 2018 5:43 pm
I have diagnosis having DID, but I myself think I have DDNOS, because I don't loose control. When I first started to have these other people inside my head, they were all in the different worlds. They lived in the same city, but it wouldn't be possible for them to meet each other, because in the way they didn't exist in the same world at all. It just didn't feel right for them to meet each other. At some point that changed, and the parts changed too, and all parts on the inner world now do know each other. All teens, except for one, are living in the same house, and the adults I have, are working in there. This one boy who doesn't live inside the house, knows people inside the house, so they all know each other. (How ever I do also have parts who live in my body, and them I don't know, they are not part of the inner word I'm talking about.) I think it is a good thing that the people in the inner world now know each other, I don't have to be in so many places in my mind at the same time anymore. I have also let them somehow now to come closer to me and the body, and I've started to function a lot better because of that. (And also my psychiatrist finally found a medication that really helps me.)
Relationships are a problem to me too. It's mostly because most of my parts are teen age guys. They are almost all bi-sexual or gay, and I am a straight woman. But actually, I can not see myself in relationship, for many reasons that are caused by this condition. My only adult female part is BDSM dominant, and others are guys, so I would want to be treated as a guy, or to be in control, but in a way that is not my trait. The straight males I have, their sexuality has very little to do with my body, and I think my sexuality is sexuality of my teen boys' and this adult woman's, but non of them is me. Like I said somewhere before, I am them, but they are not me.
I thought for many years I live on my own, without any relationships, because of my own free will. I hate it when people think I am single, because to me it sounds like I was looking for someone, but haven't found, and that has never been the case. I spend my time in the inner world, and get tired very easily around real life people (but this seems to be changing now). I could not live in the same apartment with another person. Also I am ridiculously scared of commitment. I get anxious and feel like someone is asking way too much commitment from me, if I have promised to go on a date. It doesn't feel right, it feels like a chore I need to do. Thinking about relationship feels like I've promised to take care of someone, and that I can not do. I can't use people to support me at all, when I'm not feeling well, I need to be alone, because I can't take care of others then, and I can't be supported and taken care of by others at all. So I came to realize, it's not just a free choice of mine not to have relationships, because I really don't have a choice.
My goal is not to have a relationship. My goal is to become someone, who is able to have a relationship, and then I can really freely choose, if I want it or if I don't.
I want to have a life of my own, I don't want to live just inside my mind anymore, being someone else. But I do not want to lose my inner world either. I just want to be more one, have ability to live life as someone, but still have the ability to access my creativity, which is now trapped in the inner world.