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Postby Sarandipity » Wed Aug 15, 2018 11:28 pm

I was thinking of something that happened 6months ago and it feels like about 2 years ago to me.

I was just thinking that surely that's the wrong way around ie shouldn't six months ago feel less time and not more?

How do you find the feeling of time? Is it dependent on life events or not?
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Re: Time?

Postby NyxX » Thu Aug 16, 2018 12:05 am

I realised after reading your post and thinking about it that we don't really understand time. Something as simple as keeping a beat or counting seconds we can't do and are bad enough that every time it's been attempted people comment about our lack of rhythm or just in amazement that we can't keep the gap the same between seconds.

And as for our memories a lot are missing or fragmented which doesn't help but we can't place most of them in an accurate chronological order or even separate all of them. The past is the before. Recent memories are just before by that I mean since I was 18 and one's before that are before when I was little. But they don't feel any older than the others.

If something exists in the before and still does now it somehow becomes forever. Say there is something I'm saving for and I get asked how long I've been saving the answer is in our mind always so we end up saying forever and we've been called melodramatic for it.

We also never remember the bodies age and often can't even work it out because we don't remember what year it is now. Events that are in the future we forget about usually until Ozalces reminds us and then we will be oh that's this weekend? Or some such.

Anyway all these things boil down to the fact we don't understand time.
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Re: Time?

Postby Amythyst » Thu Aug 16, 2018 12:07 am

Our sense of time is usually pretty good on the scale of hours/minutes/seconds but beyond that it gets way out of whack.

Like I might think something happened 'a few days ago, maybe a week or so ago' and find out it was like 3 or 4 months ago. I can't tell if something happened a year ago or a decade ago, it all feels like a meaningless swirl of 'the past' where there's no context or continuity.

It works both ways... stuff seems a long time ago when its recent. Like talking with a friend and I was like "this was oh, two or three days ago. Tuesday I think." and she'll be like "Tuesday was yesterday." and I'm surprised because it feels like so long ago.

It used to bother us but now we're just sorta used to it. Like, we never know what day it is, what month it is. What season it is. We usually know what year it is, that's about it.

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Re: Time?

Postby KawaiiKitty » Thu Aug 16, 2018 12:40 am

We don't exist in time. It's just too challenging. Time to us is just an accessory - for example! "We need to go to the doctors at 2:10pm" it's just saying we need to do this, it doesnt mean anything to us as some of us still think it's the week before!
We just tend to run on phone alerts for reminders of things, and other then that just live in the present. It's far eaisier.

Time is just too complicated
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Re: Time?

Postby raptureblues » Thu Aug 16, 2018 1:21 am

any sense of time is lost on me. i have to live with permanent phone reminders, even for small inane things, because i absolutely will forget what day anything is supposed to happen. even recent memories feel distant and fuzzy, though i can still recognise them as "mine" and that i am the person in them (unless i am dissociating worse than normal). any memories before age 19 feel like they're not my memories, which i can't really explain.

friends i've made since age 19+ feel like people i've known all my life, despite that not being the case. people who i've apparently known since i was a child/teenager feel like people i don't know at all. i get moments where i can't situate myself in a time or place and can't recognise anyone i know, but i don't get that all the time. i have a good spatial memory so normally i can tell what memories belong to which vague time period based on the location (i.e. specific houses, university, work places, etc) but it often means i have no chronological order for my memories, especially from before i was 19.

time is weird and i try not to think about it too much.
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