IainEtc wrote:Hi Brejer,
You're nice!
We use "anchors". Like car keys for Host and phone for me and pocket knife for Colin. We hold them and they remind us who's supposed to be front right then. It works unless we get like totally overwhelmed.
Oh and body positions too. Colin stands tall and I kind of slouch in chairs... stuff like that.
Iain
Thank you, Iain! I think you and 'etc' are nice too! And that's brilliant, the anchors. We already know about preferences/what 'belongs to who' with some stuff so we're definitly trying that (woah, it feels big to 'seperate us' more, that way, which we have to do anyway to understand the system better).
birdsong87 wrote:it might help to see it as a systemic problem, not one or the other part doing something wrong. It's like everyone is positioned in a way that this is the outcome.
Also it might help to ask yourself which problem the system is trying to solve or cover up by functioning this way. the system is not stupid, we don't do stuff that creates problems unless it seems to be the only way (we know of at that time) to avoid even bigger problems.
You're right. It's not about blaming a part. And yes, I'm going to dive into the 'why'.
Thanks y'all!