Alters that don’t have names? Or am I in the wrong forum?

I have this 6 year old in my head and I asked her to show herself to me and she showed me an image of myself at that age. I have had therapists that have said to me that sometimes I would present as a hurt child. Come to think of it sometimes my vision goes fuzzy and I start dissociating but I feel like I am being taken over by something that just stops me from talking unless I’m with someone I can really trust.. when I was around that age I was very shy and wouldn’t talk to anyone unless I really trusted them so I’m thinking maybe she is an alter??
I also think I also have another who is around 17 but neither of them have names and they both look like and I guess, are me. They’re just stuck at younger ages

Sounds like you in the right place to me and welcome.

That all sounds quite familiar. Welcome to the forum!

Names might come, or might not. Just take it easy and things will start to balance out for you

Hi,

Welcome to the forum. You don't have to have a huge system with names and stuff. DID is just this label. It can look really really different with different people. You might try taking the DES (dissociative experiences scale) online and see what you get.

Good luck.

Iain

The freaking Dissociation forum spell checker doesn't know the word 'dissociative'? That's SO lame!

IainEtc wrote:Hi,

Welcome to the forum. You don't have to have a huge system with names and stuff. DID is just this label. It can look really really different with different people. You might try taking the DES (dissociative experiences scale) online and see what you get.

Good luck.

Iain

The freaking Dissociation forum spell checker doesn't know the word 'dissociative'? That's SO lame!

I just took the DES and it gave me a score of 56... apparently anything over 30 has a higher association with did... kinda scared now

Aiodbne wrote:I just took the DES and it gave me a score of 56... apparently anything over 30 has a higher association with did... kinda scared now

Don't let it worry you. It's an evaluation tool or whatever. A screening tool. It just means that dissociation isn't ruled out.

FWIW when we first took it we got in the 70's lol.

As far as alters without names, that's not unusual. Some just don't. Some do but keep it secret at first. Some haven't picked a name yet. Everyone's different, everyone's situation is different.

V2

Having a high score doesn't mean it is DID other things can cause high scores sometime and some people with DID score low. When I took the DES I forgot to average the score so that horrified me lol. From what people on here have posted about there scores it seems fairly average.

The DES is about your is about dissociation and how you cope with things. It's a very good way to cope with things but like all things in life to much can be bad.

If it's bothering you or interfering in your life I would advise getting a T that is experienced with dissociation and DID.

Learning about this stuff can be scary and overwhelming and make you feel more crazy at times. But it's important not to push those feelings away and dissociate from them. Because the feelings are usually coming from having more awareness of yourself and your experiences. And while that is hard its part of the road towards healing.

None of my other parts came with names, except the newest one.

My husband and I named Lilly (we both thought of the same name and she loved it).

My husband named Britney. Now I know that when she would present as a teenager my parents would always say "you're such a brat" or "stop being a brat." So she told my husband she was "the brat." And he named her, and it just fit and she loved it.

Delilah, when asked who she was said, "I'm she who does what needs doing." My husband asked if she wanted a name and her response was, "that would be nice." When he came up with Delilah and asked if she liked it, she said, "It is a nice name, it will do."

Little Wolf is actually a split off from Lilly, so for a while Lilly named her "Wolf Lilly." Little Wolf let me know she didn't like it, so we started calling her Little Wolf while trying to figure out a new name. But it just felt right and she liked it, so "Little Wolf" stuck, and that's her name now.

Val... she's the only one who had named herself. When she presented and my husband asked "who are you?" She said "You can call me Val." She says it's short for Valentine.

Kitten

I am newly diagnosed and some of mine refuse to give a name until they have given me whatever information they wanted to share first. It is all in their own time. Welcome

Nicole

Nope, alters don't have to have names or anything like that, and yes i'd say you're in the right place welcome.