Thoughts?

HI everyone, hope you doing as well as you can. Real short, I haven't been around here for some time for various reasons. My activity is sporadic, hope no one takes offence if I don't reply at times- I just trip too much.

Anyway, what I want to ask is: how long since realizing you have DID, did it take you to have an honest conversation of your condition to a friend, close family memember, relative, heck even with your T.

Appreciate your thoughts/experience

WTFDIDIDO wrote:how long since realizing you have DID, did it take you to have an honest conversation of your condition to a friend, close family memember, relative, heck even with your T.

It was maybe 1 hour. I waited for my husband to come home from work. I told him my news. He said "that explains a lot." Done.

Why would you wait? That you have a problem of some kind is obvious to everyone, right? And the right diagnosis explains so much and is such a huge step toward getting well.

WTFDIDIDO wrote:HI everyone, hope you doing as well as you can. Real short, I haven't been around here for some time for various reasons. My activity is sporadic, hope no one takes offence if I don't reply at times- I just trip too much.

Anyway, what I want to ask is: how long since realizing you have DID, did it take you to have an honest conversation of your condition to a friend, close family memember, relative, heck even with your T.

Appreciate your thoughts/experience

My husband (we were dating at the time) found out before I did. Lol. My little locked me out to talk to him. I “woke up” a few hours later, thinking I’d fallen asleep on the phone. She did this two or three times before he told me about her. The other two came out in fairly quick succession.

That was about two years ago.

The kids have been seeing the therapist to help them with issues related to my divorce. This T has been seeing them for over a year, as well as doing family therapy. I started seeing her on my own a few months ago. I just told her about my DID last week.

D has been doing a lot of research, and she told the T (posing as me) that she’d been reading about DID and started a convo about it. After finding out the T believed it’s real, found out the T has had a patient with DID before. So, D told the T about us... still pretending to be me.

The T just met B and D as themselves tonight.

I’m considering telling one of my two very close friends...but we’re not all in agreement about it yet. It’s B’s idea to do a reveal.

K

It was a couple hours for us. We didn't know it was DID yet but previous host had gone inside and V1 woke up in her place and didn't know who she was or what was going on, but she knew something 'big' and 'wierd' was happening, so it didn't take long to get on the phone with our best friend to talk with her.

We were pretty much in close contact with both our best friends, as everything sort of unravelled and more stuff came up over the next couple weeks. I don't know why, but V1 was pretty desperate to 'rule out' DID for a while. She'd talk or email or text with our best friends and go over the different symptoms and stuff.

Actually she was in the middle of a text-conversation with one friend when I popped out for the first time.

When we had our first meeting with our T, we brought a letter that basically said 'we think we have DID, we want you to evaluate and if correct, confirm the diagnosis.'

V2

WTFDIDIDO wrote:Anyway, what I want to ask is: how long since realizing you have DID, did it take you to have an honest conversation of your condition to a friend, close family memember, relative, heck even with your T.

Mine was fairly quick, but only to the extent of "I have a dissociative disorder" without any more detail to most. Only a handful know more than that. But I think my case is likely fairly unique as the people that know even the limited amount discovered something amiss that led me to discover the disorder- and they figured that part out before even I did. Beyond these few people (5, 10 counting spouses) and the few others I've told (about a dozen total- including my wife and (only the) closest family members), no one knows anything… and I intend to keep it that way.

I just told a friend of 22 years about six months ago and we never discussed it deeper than an omission. Her reply was - that makes since. I have a co-worker that is a friend and an alter told him and i freaked out and shut it down. Alters talk to him, he knows it but i cannot handle it and it causes a lot of issues.
I am trying to work on my denial and shame because i am at a point of isolation that i ... i do not know how to finish the sentence. It is bad. I want to learn about how things work so i can work with and not against everyone. I think it is the only way to heal and not be so isolated.
I find it scary to share.

My SO found out as soon as I did or sort of new before. I had been reading about DID and felt it was very familiar and didn't like it so decided I would explain about the different types of disassociation and what I experienced and what I meant when I told him I was dissociating. So we're going through a list of different types if dissociation and we get to identity alteration and I casually say something like 'and it say here that the person experiencing this may not be aware and it maybe noticed by the persons loved ones or friends so do you think I do that?' He didn't even pause and answered yes immediately which shocked me and left me feeling well ****. So then we discussed it a bit but not much it took awhile to tell him everything well mostly, because I'm not sure I have told him everything yet mostly because I find it hard to talk about things so I do it in bit and pieces. And I have not told anyone else.