Trying to hold my own

My son’s married to abusive toxic woman . They have 2 little boys I take care of a lot.
The little kids rely on me.

I’ve been stoic and kept feelings to self for 6 years. All of a sudden I’m so done ,so over it.
Her demands, her unkindness , lies, stealing from me, manipulation, passive aggressive entitled BS , the toxic atmosphere for the kids, my son ( in denial ? Fearful ? victim of DV)

I’ve had it . Told him how I felt , how kids in harms way, he needs to “ see”.

I’m exhausted, unsure of myself, tired of her abuse and me thinking I’m strong enough to take it. Speaking up more. Setting boundaries. Letting my feelings be known ( to him not her).
Fearful she’ll take kids from me which has kept me quiet so long isn’t keeping me silent anymore.
I’m done.

Sad and uncomfortable but done.
Worried I’ve alienated my son but done nonetheless.

Wow. Good for you for talking to your son about this. That's the part you have control over--expressing your feelings and being there in a healthy way for your son and grandsons.

Thankyou .
It’s messy and I feel vulnerable.

One problems is I’m triggered by her and it leaks over to him.
She hits on lots of really old stuff from FOO. I feel reactive with son when it’s not appropriate. It all starts to blend together.
Thank goodness a few people I know help me get grounded and separate the two of them.

Painful situation.