Clothing/Dressing For your Alters

So this could be a touchy subject… What do you do when girl alters are really upset about not having "pretty" and "cute" things to wear- or something girlish to wear- and the body is male? Is it cross-dressing to indulge them? Is it bad to? Anyone got experience trying to appease and console alters in situations like this?

I am biologically female and have many males inside who are not pleased and even wanted a gender surgery change. My compromise is to wear some male or masculine clothing... sometimes just a belt or a men’s jacket. I can mix and match so to speak.

It’s easier for females to do this but I think it’s important to honor both genders.
Can it be feminine things other than clothing? Like pretty vase and flowers or candle ?

Or wear some things in the privacy of your own home. I’ve done that when it’s too much to wear in public . Also have parts who like highly sexualized clothes / won’t wear outside my home. But this shows that I care.

It is crossdressing, but it's not bad. I am personally fully transgender, and have almost all men's clothes, with one skirt for Nora.

Same here, like LadySlippers. We even did a coming out as transgender while still confused.

And, yes, it's easier for us. I think the advice about stuff for the house in stead of clothing would maybe work?

I don't think cross-dressing is bad, at all! If you'd feel comfortable doing so; why not. If you don't in public, indeed in the privacy of your own home?

We're on a point now everybody (active) can agree on; quite neutral. But I truelly understand this works different for you.

An additional level of concern for me is that I am very religious… cross-dressing is a "no no", but is it truly "cross-dressing" if the person in my mind at the time IS a girl? And it's not likely to take on a level of "let me pass as a girl" (which is a more literal reading)… 

But there's the factor, too, that my wife (who is not very "girly" at all) doesn't own (much less wear) skirts or dresses, pantyhose, etc. The things that the girls in me seem to be hinting or that I'm feeling they want… 

I was online yesterday and walked away to do some cleaning and came back to the computer to find several tabs open to workout skorts and capris skirts and work out tops to match… I think a subtle hint they want these sorts of "cute" workout clothing… I am unsure how that would go over with others, especially my wife… 

You can get less masculine mens clothing like floral or salmon (why can't they just call it pink?) shirts, longer hair on men is also more acceptable then it used to be maybe she would be happy with a compromise.

Oh I also got my SO some fluffy socks for men at Xmas last year because I was sick of him complaining about cold feet.

If it’s for an inside girl then it’s for her. Not really cross dressing I don’t think . But I’m no expert.

If you got one or two super girly items could you do that in private ? Even a barrette or hair thingey which is small .

I didn’t go all out with men’s clothes but do have some items sold as men’s.
When I was in high school and much of college I only wore boys clothes and watch . Never even wondered about it . Nothing was female at all but somewhere along the way that felt constrictive.

Does your wife know about your parts ? Would she be supportive ?

LadySlippers wrote:If it’s for an inside girl then it’s for her. Not really cross dressing I don’t think . But I’m no expert.

If you got one or two super girly items could you do that in private ? Even a barrette or hair thingey which is small .

This is something I would probably insist on- maybe the "work out" clothes that would only be worn IN the home, when working out or doing housework… 

LadySlippers wrote:Does your wife know about your parts ? Would she be supportive ?

We're still trying to figure all this out, honestly. This is new to me, to us… And IDK how she understands the parts- I don't know I totally understand it. We don't know precisely what the doctor will say on these matters, but we're hoping in the next few weeks when that deeper evaluation he wants happens, it'll clarify HIS position, which I believe will help she and I come to terms and begin addressing these things more, too.

Zor wrote:An additional level of concern for me is that I am very religious… cross-dressing is a "no no", but is it truly "cross-dressing" if the person in my mind at the time IS a girl? And it's not likely to take on a level of "let me pass as a girl" (which is a more literal reading)… 

Are you actually asking your God's opinions from us? How many types of cross-dressing do you know that aren't for inner girls of someone's? Learn to judge yourself as you do others, or just stop being such a hypocrite. -JON-

PlanetIcarus wrote:

Zor wrote:An additional level of concern for me is that I am very religious… cross-dressing is a "no no", but is it truly "cross-dressing" if the person in my mind at the time IS a girl? And it's not likely to take on a level of "let me pass as a girl" (which is a more literal reading)… 

Are you actually asking your God's opinions from us? How many types of cross-dressing do you know that aren't for inner girls of someone's? Learn to judge yourself as you do others, or just stop being such a hypocrite. -JON-

I wasn't asking that at all… just if others had had similar experiences or feelings and how they were addressed… Please don't be so harsh… I am confused and a little scared by all this still, and was seeking advice from people that may have had similar struggles to figure out how I could approach this one myself. Nothing more, nothing less.