Finding a new T

We haven't used PODs much, but we used to interact with the founder of FPP frequently online, many years ago, when we were part of the same support network. We highly recommend her and her work.

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NyxX wrote:Charities in the UK for trauma dissociation and DID. They have a lot of information online.

https://www.pods-online.org.uk

http://www.firstpersonplural.org.uk

-- Wed Jul 18, 2018 7:46 pm --

I've found the sites really helpful and finding them is how I first learnt about DID.

Thank you.

Kitten

I had an appointment with the T today at a different time and day to usual because we can't do the usual one and this was the only time we could both reschedule to. But anyway that's beside the point.

The point is that even though we still haven't discussed DID directly (I feel like we are going really slow writing this here because I can see how long I have been seeing her and I know how quickly some of the people here told there T's, but I know I shouldn't compare) she has lent me 2 books she asked if I would like to borrow, both are books about DID. So I guess I've done enough indirect talking that she thinks I'd be interested and that they are relevant. So even if we are going at a snails pase we are still making progress.

Also my friend gave me a lift there and back and because I had the books I managed to answer honestly when he asked if I thought I had DID. I told him about DID I wouldn't say he has a completely accurate understanding of DID but it is sufficient to understand me and he could instantly identify occasions he has interacted with each of us. We'll the happy child the child bad stuff happened to and the one without emotions that doesn't really care about the human race. So that's me Nixie, Pixie and Z I didn't give him the names, but he was really understanding and accepting.

So all in all I think it's been a successful evening.

NyxX wrote:So that's me Nixie, Pixie and Z I didn't give him the names, but he was really understanding and accepting.

So all in all I think it's been a successful evening.

That's great, Nyx!! I know it just happened to happen and you didn't plan it, but it sounds like a great way to introduce the topic. It makes me think that if there's someone I want to tell, I should leave a book visible somewhere. Books are always great conversation starters anyway.

Thank I'm really glad it went well because we don't really have many people in our social circle (is it still a circle if there are only 2? Lol) so it's important to us that they accept us, and while we may have glossed over some of the details and down played it a bit he accepted and recognised what we were talking about from his interactions with us.

And yes definitely the book is a good way to raise the topic because then you can subtly introduce the subject with just coming straight out and saying this is me because the idea of that is really intimidating to us. But then so is talking about ourselves or being seen in general.

Which I find an odd contradiction because it's extremely important to us that we all be accepted but at the same time we don't want anyone to see us. And how can anyone accept us if they don't see us? And the way we act disregards the desire to be unseen all the time it's only when we realise someone is looking that we get scared. Anyway it's late and I'm rambling so I'm gonna read some before I try to sleep.

I'm really curious what the books are. I'm still reading The Haunted Self--I don't have much time for reading it, so I only get to a few pages at a time, but I'm finding it really helpful.

I checked the recommendations on pods so I could link them because it's late and I have no intention of getting out of bed to check what they are called and I doubt they are the kind of thing I want to read before trying to sleep. Anyway my prediction was correct they are on the pods list (the T likes pods.)

https://books.pods-online.org.uk/shop/t ... tiplicity/

https://books.pods-online.org.uk/shop/t ... ourcebook/

I'll try to remember to let you know what I think of them.

I've started reading 'Attachment Trauma and Multiplicity' I've only got to page 11 so not past the introduction. I'm liking that it's a British author but also feeling like some of it might be a bit dated it was published 2002 so 16 years ago. It's talking about brainscan research being a new thing and that's not so much true now. But having said that other bits are really resonating.

The book quotes someone called de Zulueta and says moor in chapter 3 and I wanted to share it.

"A refusal on the part of psychiatrists and therapists to validate the horrors of their patients' tortured pasts implies a refusal to take seriously the unconscious psychological mechanisms that individuals need to use to protect themselves from the unspeakable. Such a denial is, however, no longer ethical, for it is this human capacity to dissociate that is part of the secret of both childhood abuse and the horrors of Nazi genocide, both forms of human violence, so often carried out by 'respectable' men and women."

And its right it isn't ethical for the psychiatrists and therapists and doctors and other supposedly educated people in regards to mental health to continue to disbelieve the continually growing evidence that DID is real and they ways dissociation and trauma impact people's lives.

And also the thing about 'respectable' people got to me because I heard so often growing up that I had a good dad which was complete and utter bollocks. But because he was a man and a single parent he must be good. It didn't matter that he was a monster because that happened behind closed doors. Things that should have been flashing neon warnings signs that something right behind those close doors were just ignored because people were either ignorant of the signs or to unwilling to act on them for whatever reason they had.