Thread for EP's?

fireheart wrote:Thanks for clarifying, Efragment!

Efragment wrote:Triggering each other might be a very legitimate concern, yes. But I think there's just as much 'responsibility' there as when you watch a triggering movie or read books, etc.

Agree, the only difference that comes to mind is that you're also putting information out there that may be triggering to others. I suppose it would be their responsibility to engage or not.

VioletFlux wrote:

Efragment wrote:Hi V2 (and V1:)), that's really a very important part I think V1 is handling very well. I have the most problems with welcoming young parts, but I feel so much difference when I do.

Actually V1 is good at greeting and having warm and positive thoughts towards all the parts, but when it comes to really letting them contact her or front, she is still uneasy. Especially with littles.

I sometimes wonder if one of my roles is to be like ambassador to them or something lol. Or like, Melissa is the 'spokesperson' for the littles, maybe I'm the 'spokesperson' for the bigs haha.

It's not that V1 doesn't like them, but its another thing she gets anxiety about - that we'll act 'silly' or 'childish' or 'wierd' and she'll get all embarassed or people will think we're crazy or whatever. I mean, maybe people will think that, but who cares lol.

So she's got good intentions but in some cases she's unable to fully follow-through, so that's where I take over, hehe.

Efragment wrote:Great. May I ask how? Found out here that it helps when I thank the part who shoots flashbacks at me (without even knowing which part it is, mostly) for telling me and that we'll absolutely will deal with it when we're strong enough.

This post in our journey thread details her discovery / realization of how to help:
dissociative-identity/topic205203.html#p2133847
TL;DR = she asked our internal helper/observer part to get someone from inside to find and take care of the little who was the source of an ongoing flashback. Rather than worry about doing it all herself, she delegated it to the inside, trusted the system, and it worked.

Thanks for explaining about the therapists. Yeah I would not like that either. We're sorta lucky so far with our T, she's been pretty good and very open and accepting, of having others show up at session. It hasn't happened often, but three EPs have turned up so far. Rebecca made a brief visit, Mike went once to basically intimidate her a little, and Melissa came out once. Our T just accepted it all and talked to them, didn't try pushing them away, and didn't argue or dismiss their issues.

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