Part asking for help:do you have advice about communication?

There is a part inside who keeps saying: help, help, help...

I'm still not good at inner communication. What should I do? It seems as if she can only say that one word.

Hi fireheart, we've found a few different things to try.

Some of our parts respond to different kinds of communication. Eg. Rebecca responds best if we speak out loud to her, then she answers in our head. Charlie works best when we write to him. Sometimes he writes back, sometimes he answers in our head. Either way though what I'm saying is, if you are trying to talk to them just one way, maybe try a different method? It could be that they're not able to hear you the way you're currently trying.

Another thing that V1 figured out, is you don't necessarily have to do it yourself. So if you can't communicate with this part yourself, then see if you can get another part to talk to them. Eg. someone you can communicate with more easily, or if you have an internal helper part, etc, just ask them to go and comfort and talk with this part who needs help.

That's all I can think of at the moment, but yeah, we've found sometimes you have to go at things sideways or from another angle, when just going direct won't work.

V2

Talk to her out loud or in your head -what would you say to anyone asking for help ?
Things like -what do you need? How can I help ? It sounds scary ?

Or start a journal and invite her to write in it . I’m not great at communicating either but I hope my efforts will help my inside people trust me and communicate more

Thank you V2 and LadySlippers, those are helpful suggestions!

I've been trying to talk to her by "thinking" to her. I will try talking out loud and writing... The best thing would be if I could get her to communicate back... Even if it is through drawing or playing. I think I'm just a bit worried. Yes, even if another part could talk to her I would probably feel a bit better about it (most importantly, I would hope she would feel a bit better!).

LadySlippers wrote:Things like -what do you need? How can I help ? It sounds scary ?

Thanks for writing that out. I've been saying things like: "It's safe now. It's okay. What is going on?"
These open questions might be more appropriate.

In addition to using words, I would send reassuring feelings of "I'm here, you're safe, I will help you," and maybe reassuring touch as well, like hugging a big stuffie. A reasonable guess is that someone saying, "help, help, help" like that must feel like they are in danger, or in pain, so helping them ground in the present might be useful.

lots of good ideas!
for us, it sometimes happens too. usually its because we are experiencing too much stress in our outside life and the little calls for help so we will stop and take a break.

Nixie used to constantly flood our system with fear but refuse to communicate otherwise. And it wasn't until we promised (and I mean we all had to promise) that we would keep her safe and never hurt her or make her be alone that she began to communicate with us.

So maybe something similar would need to be done for them. Maybe they don't feel able to communicate more clearly for some reason and they need to be empowered in some way. Maybe communicating in a different way as many responses have been but maybe also making sure they feel safe in communicating.

Thank you all for sharing!

Help, help, help i f I might. Seek the effective communication manual online tell them you may be safe, I am going to ask a few probing questions on the words dialouged. Ask if there is a movie, a quote is it memory specific. Ask if it is little try to seek it safety. I am sure in the past it has had preferences so that it may get to know itself and also likes nd dislikes. Help, help, help are some words to get the ball rolling on a larger picture to wholeness one day. Make sure you journal, seek out it's progress and utilize self care.

Hello fireheart,

I wanted to suggest mirror talking - looking into a mirror and speaking as if you're talking to another person, in this case the part inside.

Depending on the age of your alter (or the receptiveness), drawing to each other or painting could be a good option for you as well.

If you have a bit of money, you could also offer a small treat or toy for that particular alter to try to draw them or start a bit of trust growing.