If I don't do what I'm told I get threatened?

Ive notice that if I dont follow someones dorections I get threatened and someone goes over a things I love that can be taken away from me or someone gets ocd and panics andnthinks everything isbbeing taken from them and panics and gets paranoid.



I feel like I only do this because if I dont follow what soemone says ,i feel like im not caring about their feelings or that im being bad.


And im guessing whoever or everyone with tjese issues is just feeling guilty and punishes their selves or fearing punishments Idk but it sounds right.

If time permits, do the work in the moment especially if it means that it some alter will notice it is him to make a quicker association. It might help the continuity of what a moment would like to portray for good first impression for confidence building

If you're referring to an alter threatening you, I'd say the answer is to listen to them carefully, respectfully, and thank them.

This sounds counter-intuitive but it may be the only way to get through to them. They may be an introject or may have internalized rules from outside abusive people. Or they just did the best they could. The stuff you label OCD, panicking and paranoia says everything about the environment they had to survive through.

Let them know you appreciate their trying to protect you. My guess is they want you to stop behaviors which, in the past at least, were dangerous. The challenge over time is to help them see that things have changed and that -- maybe -- there are other ways to look at the situation.

You don't want to make them wrong. That's not helpful nor fair. They may hold opinions and work from rules which once helped keep you all from harm.

A (good) mother may threaten their child with punishment if they move too close to the fire again. Yet ultimately this is a reasonable, protective choice.