Anyone give in to alters

I've been living with DID and my alter Owen for five years now. At first there was a lot of hospital stays, while Owen would do antics to make me end up their. Now I'm harassed by Owen, he keeps me up till very late/early morning. And wakes me up at six thirty on the dot every morning. I've been dead tired a lot of times. But Owen just drags me out to get ice cream and throw up. Or get slushys which he does keep down. I'm thinking this behavior is due to stress. Yet this has been going on since the holidays. I'm worried it might not stop. My ex is soon to move out which he has been a trigger for Owen to cause me anxiety, anger, depression and other feelings that are mixed about him leaving. I Panther want him out cause he was borrowing hundreds of dollars left and right, cause he couldn't afford to fix his car. I just go along with what Owen wants and forces me to do. Cause I feel helpless in fighting. It always led me to hospital visits, which made Owens behavior even worse upon returning home, I just ignore it the best I can and deal with his behavior to keep me out of the hospital. Owen doesn't let me read, watch tv for any lengthy period of time, or I get anxiety. He also just has me smoke pot which I use to calm my nerves. But Owen uses as an excuse to binge and purge a lot. I know I've been venting a lot on this forum lately. But my alter doesn't listen much right now. He's usually ok when theirs not much stressors around. And doesn't drag me all over the place to walk around, or buy food to purge. How long can this last, it's been going on for months and is starting to upset me how Owen is treating me. Owen doesn't care, but he's letting me write this. I just hope things don't get worse when my ex moves out on the first of April. Sorry for the rant, I've just been going through hell lately.

Yes. Maybe not at the same level but yes, I give in to the others all the time.

The teen and I had very different taste in music. She hated my music. Even if I was out and she wasn't, if she was coconsious she'd complain. Finally I gave up my music entirely. We only listen to what she likes, whether she's out or not.

There's movies and stuff I used to enjoy, programs on Netflix etc. but 90% of the time we only watch what others want. The littles want their cartoons so that's what we watch. Or Mike wants his sports. So we're either watching my little pony cartoons or hockey. I haven't seen any movies I want to see since maybe November or December. There's a couple shows I get to see on TV once a week but that's it.

Our previous host was a doormat to her family that they all took advantage of. I think sometimes I'm the same but to our system. I give in to whatever the others want.

Sometimes I feel a bit sad or bitter about it, but then I don't want to annoy them or disappoint them, so I don't want to fight it.

-Violet (1)

For us the issue is not giving into them at inconvenient times (such as; not collapsing into a ball and hiding under a table at the library), but we do our best to accommodate our littles with disney cartoons, crackers, juice, and the like.

Thanks for the replies. Although with Owen it's more like being overtaken, since his personality is stronger than mine. He has in the past though wanted to watch cartoons and I let him, he really didn't listen to music. Lately when I watch more than a few hours of tv he starts getting to over stimulated by it so I have to turn it off. I've been in a few situations to where Owen imagine hurting me, and I have to get out of the trance like state, to prevent him from hurting us. I wish he just cared more about our health, by not throwing up for being over stressed, or smoking to much. He seems to treat me separate from him. And I talk about him as if he were separate from me to. Though I know he knows he's stuck with me as core person, he doesn't seem to care what he does to our body.

Just a thought but what has Owen done that is or can be seen as positive? I don't doubt what you're saying at all but I feel like we're only getting one side of your collective story. For me, at the very least, Owen sounds strong and given the childhoods many of us had, strong can be very good.

I have a lot of respect for some of our strongest alters. Ulric's personality is not exactly endearing, he's probably the opposite of charming, but he has had a lot clearer, stronger resolve about blocking access to people who are doing us wrong in some way and I can't thank him enough for his commitment to do that.

Yes, Owen has his good points. Usually I'm very reserved and keep quiet. Owen however makes me more of an extrovert, and helps me make friends. Though like I cant, he gets over stimulated in larger crowds. Owen does his job in stopping my somatic pain in my abdominal area. But has me feel the pain when things go wrong. Yes he's mostly troublesome to me. But we've lived in relatively ok harmony for the past three years. It's mainly the stress he didn't like. We agree on what we do and don't like. I as owen, don't like to be alone. Yet to me I'm scared of her father passing when he does cause it looks as if well be alone. Ive been misbehaving cause of that feed as well. I say I'm eight but act more like a teen. I help keep panther motivated, yet make sure she has someone to talk to when she as well as I need to vent some. I can be good, just choose to be difficult.