relationships?

am i the only one who has problems keeping a relationship? or is this something we all experience? i want to blame my DID for it but i know blaming never solves anything. its starting to make me think im never going to find someone...

my last relationship was a few months ago and she fell for me instantly, she probably fell too hard. in her eyes i was perfect and then at the time i told her but i kinda lied, i didnt wanna scare her so i said i suffer from extreme depression and at times im not myself. she accepted it and thought she could help. however my other half wasnt fond of her =/ i was too awkwardly shy and he was not interested in her, so we pushed her away and ended it before it got serious. was my first relationship in years and im starting to wonder....with DID are relationships near impossible?

truest words i've ever heard. *pft.

wasnt right for us. had a stalker feel to the whole fiasco, she was creepy, and John only dated her because she asked him out. he seems to believe in giving people a try, he puts a lot of faith in people. one of these days that faith is going to be misplaced and hurt him badly im sure.

John2

For me having a relationship was the only thing that made me feel safe enough to accept myself. I will say, however, that it's not an easy road. My husband never knows who he will be going to bed with at night. He treats all of us with a great deal of patience and love. I believe that it takes a very special kind of person to be in a relationship with a multiple.
Tina

DITTO,

I'VE BEEN HAPPILY MARRIED 8 YRS. HE WAS THE FIRST PERSON I'D MET THAT I WANTED TO STAY AROUND. BEFORE HIM I'D ALWAYS GET TO THE POINT WHERE I JUST COULDN'T STAND BEING AROULD THEM. MY "LITTLES" KINDA ADOPTED HIM AS A GOOD FATHER FIGURE. HE WANTED TO KNOW ME FOR ME, AND NOT JUST SEX. WE WERE FRIENDS FIRST. IT WAS SCAREY LETTING HIM GET TO KNOW ME, BUT I FEEL THAT HAD TO HAPPEN IN ORDER IT TO WORK, OTHERWISE IT WOULD HAVE BEEN A LIE. WE'VE GROWN EVEN CLOSER SINCE THEN. SO YES, IT CAN HAPPEN!

BENNY

well it makes me really happy to learn that it is possible. gives me hope

I'm working on a relationship at the moment. I've had 2 bad ones in the past, and thought it was never possible for me to be in a relationship. My last ex actually left saying ''You'll only ever be in a relationship with someone who doesn't know you're multiple''

But the guy I'm dating now is reluctant to leave, even though I've told him about myself and that I'm probably not a good person to go out with, this guy stuck by me. He says we can work things out together, and I can be alone when I want to be... He has all the patience in the world, I guess I'm really grateful.

Benny's marriage gives me hope for the future, hehe!

My gf of 7 months doesn't know I'm multiple yet. I'll tell her when I feel we've been together long enough for her to accept that side of me.

My ex-boyfriend was very accepting of DID and he still helps us out once in a while. (Like the other day Nori called him because she was lost and it was 2am so he drove to the other side of the Valley, found her and let her follow him home.)
Some things were good and some things were bad, but we didnt break up because of DID, and he doesn't blame the DID for our break up. It was a fairly normal relationship (considering) and a normal break up. I think it is possible. You just have to find the right person.

bates. are you suggesting its not a bad thing to keep it hidden from a companion even months into said relationship? i mean im not going to on the first date be like "hi, my name is john, i have multiple personalities". but at the same time as the relationship progresses...is it something i should wait untill i know its actual love before i mention?