Keeping friendships

kittenspuppies wrote:Teddybear - I made it clear that I followed the advice I was giving - so when you say that following that advice would make that part an ignorant egotistical tyrant towards the other parts - of course it was personal....

No, you actually do the opposite of your own advice.. but i dont think you even know that..

I dont think you ever would consider to give a single one of your own alters that advice either..
You would not say something like "Hi Ball, you, and only you, decide who we should be friends with or not. so drop the ones you dont like and ignore what i* and the rest thinks"..

most of me liked her and I ignored the part of me that did not
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So it is very important to me to give significance to an uncomfortable part. But it also doesn't have to be abuse for me to consider a part's discomfort important. A part's discomfort is a little like a warning light going off.

Here it is very obvious that your alters communicate and respect eachother and cast votes on important topics. That is the complete opposite of your advice, where you said that Daeg (or Ball) alone should decide who is friends with who, and ignore Dina and the others.

Now i think Daeg already had considered the option to drop the friend, who wouldnt consider that? and had already decided that it would be disrespectful to Dina (and that was the reason he asked the question in the first place) . So when you told Daeg to drop Dinas friend, then it was nothing Daeg would consider anyway...

* I am not even sure what you call "I" exists, "you" may not be a alter/soul in yourself, but a sum of all your alters/souls together.

Daeg and Dina, have you considered the possibility of trying to switch when "Pink" is around? I realize you may not be switch like that or there may be other considerations, but it does seem like it would be a good alternative if you could pull it off.