Hard time accepting a little...PLEASE comment

Sometimes i post stuff but no one leaves a comment...we are in such a crisis we truly do need some support so PLEASE coment you guys.




We all know most systems have them and we all have a hard time accepting that we may have a little or someone had a kid.

And now our whole system is literally in tutoring. A few people couldnt take some of the realizations of last night and shut down pretty epically.


This is just too much responsibility and no one feels safe or like they have an escape. Its so overwhelming. And someone who may be in charge of kid or be a mom literally had a nervous breakdown. She doesnt deserve this load,shes the responsible one.

Our mind is NO PLACE for a kid and we are all in mourning because we all feel that we have lost something and none of us want that.


What do we do? Our inner world is in shambles and when i woke up everything sorta fell apart even more.

So we are all just ignoring it and eachother until we all calm down and figure out how to undo the disassociation levels.

Hi WeAreOne420,

Don't take it personally if you don't get any comments right away or for a while. We're all going through stuff and I can't speak for everyone else, but sometimes we read things that we want to comment on but can't because of our own internal stuff. Or we read things and just don't have anything to say other than maybe 'good luck' which feels cheap so we don't post it.

Violet (1) was really hoping we wouldn't have any littles here. She's anxious about all kinds of things as it is, but the thought of having to deal with a child scared her, and the thought of having a kid sometimes out front scared her, the thought of 'acting childish' infront of other people scared her... just basicaly everything about the whole idea scared her.

So naturally we've found two inside so far.

The second one is still mostly staying hidden for now? We feel him now and then when he's upset or crying, but we haven't been able to reach him yet.

The first one, Melissa, I've made friends with and we've spent a lot of time getting to know her better. She's a great kid who's been through some rough stuff. She hasn't really fronted yet but she's gotten really close. (And she's managed to embarass the other Violet already, which makes me laugh abit.)

The other Violet is still nervous about it but even she's started spending time with Melissa, and they're almost friends too. I know one night last week the other Violet basically put Melissa to bed and Melissa gave her a hug, and Violet was almost blown over by how much warmth and affection she felt. She was still really happy the next morning.

OTOH yesterday was a really long and difficult day, we had to do stuff for the outside family all day. Lots of strange grownups around, lots of strange locations, and medical stuff. I had to do most of it because the other Violet gets anxiety, but even Melissa was getting really upset and made it hard for me to do what I needed to do. I had to take a break to calm her down inside. Luckily I had time to do that when we were at lunch.

Having littles is definitely challenging. But from what we've found so far, it can also be very good too.

-Violet (2)

I don't think I have anything to tell you that would help. But I am sorry this is so scary. In my inside world the kids seem pretty protected from things. They don't seem to know everything I or other adults know. Are you sure your little has access to all the things you think they might?

Calm down, first your imagination on what responsibility it is seems to be running wild, it will not be as bad as you are imaging it. secondly, you are not one grownup who has to take it, you are many...
Also, Kids are a lot easier to manage than grownups, kids listen and believe in you, grownups has their own agendas and beliefs.

Menagerie wrote:I don't think I have anything to tell you that would help. But I am sorry this is so scary. In my inside world the kids seem pretty protected from things. They don't seem to know everything I or other adults know. Are you sure your little has access to all the things you think they might?

Same here. Or they may know things, but they can deal with things because they're either less traumatized, or formerly traumatized and mostly healed. Our kids heal a lot more easily than the older folks.

MDs