Healthy to be attached to a headmate?

Hello, I was wondering if it was necessarily healthy to be attached to a headmate? I've had mine for as long as I've been capable of forming thoughts, and she isn't necessarily bad...? In fact, I look to her for guidance and she usually talks me out of stupid decisions. I hear that if headmates can influence you that much, whether it's positive or negative, you should see a doctor and try to 'get rid of' them? But... I'm happy with mine, honestly. I don't feel as lonely, I feel a sense of unity rather than feeling overwhelmed. So is it so wrong? Should I consult a doctor?

our former doc used to say that there is a fine line between normal expressions of the mind and a disorder. usually what makes something a disorder is that it is causing you or people around you distress or it limits your ability to function in life or otherwise has a negative effect on your (mental) health.
if you are cool with a headmate and this is not causing you any trouble, is there really a need to change anything?
usually you would go find help if you have a problem. is it a problem?

Peridot wrote: I feel a sense of unity rather than feeling overwhelmed. So is it so wrong? Should I consult a doctor?

No need for a doctor. a good doctor would tell you to communicate and be friends with your headmates until you feel as a unity with them, and you are already there..

headmates are there. it's a for better or for worse thing. so you may as well shoot for the better.

Hi,

Host knew I was in his head a long time before he figured out about DID (or admitted that he's part of a system - whole other story ). We would talk through stuff and try to make life ok. Anyway what I mean is that we've been living together and helping each other for a long time and that's not a disorder!

There is nothing wrong with having people in your head. The important thing is to get good communication and to help each other. We see a therapist to help us get along and because there are some pretty bad feelings inside. Not to get rid of anybody!

Iain

Yea, no doubt talking friend where you have no idea what will be said for those new moments that life brings everyday is rather joyful. I have no problem with it.