I’m new

Hi,
I’m new to this site, I’ve been reading for a few weeks but decided today is the day I first post.

I’m also pretty new to learning about DID, I’ve had it for as long as I know (I’m 27) and was actually diagnosed around 3/4 years ago.
I’ve been putting off getting help as Damien (alter number 1) doesn’t want help.

As far as I am aware I have 2 alters.
Damien - only to be described as an evil man, age unknown but around mid 30s. He hates me,my missus & pretty much everyone, always looking for a fight and not scared to get his hands dirty. Can take control anytime he likes and is difficult to get rid of.

Angel - 4 years old, very scared little girl, hides 90% off the time. Only see her occasionally and is always crying. Damien bullies her.

This is pretty much all I know, as I said I’m still very new to trying to learn about it.

hey there, welcome!
glad you found this forum

Hello, I'm new too. It must be pretty scary to have an alter like Damien around. Still, I guess he has his reasons for being like he is and maybe in time you'll learn ways to help him and your little, Angel. I'm not diagnosed DID but I do have a child inside that always cries if she's around. It's incredibly painful for me as I would love to help her but don't know how.

I hope you find what you are looking for here. I just want somewhere where I can comfortably talk about these issues and I hope you find that too.

welcome! we're fairly new here ourselves and have found this place a real haven of understanding and compassion.

Thanks for the welcome. I’m hoping this site can help both me and my girlfriend understand it better.

I’ve had it for a long time but just lived with it because that’s been ‘normal’ for me but Damien has got me in a lot of trouble previously including fights and getting me stabbed in my face so as you can understand that’s not the kind of life I want to live myself. Especially now I want to settle down.

I have a gp appointment booked for next week to hopefully star some kind of therapy.

Hi. Welcome

BiggerR wrote:Hi,
As far as I am aware I have 2 alters.
Damien - only to be described as an evil man, age unknown but around mid 30s. He hates me,my missus & pretty much everyone, always looking for a fight and not scared to get his hands dirty. Can take control anytime he likes and is difficult to get rid of.

The best way to deal with system mates who are like Damien is to talk to them. You need to get to a point where you can make sure he won't do anything reckless. Then let him front and do something in a safe controlled environment. Getting rid of him, yelling at him, or doing anything like that won't result in anything good.

Some psychs will focus on "suppressing alters" or getting rid of certain alters, but that's not a proper way of dealing with a person. Alters are people as much as you (presumably the host) are a person.

Treat Damien like a person and you'll start to see some positive progression in your relationship. Finding a therapist that treats alters as people would also be a good start.

-Ainsley

I'm trying to find a program for treatment and help with my mental illnesses.... tryn anything that'd help even at a significant low pace. Has anyone tried etc or tmi? I'm not even sure if I got those acronyms right lol. But I'm in a sticky situation right now and got in trouble with the law 1.5 yrs back for a dui, then recently failed a drug test for alcohol. My p.o. And I both agree to go to the main part of the problem first... hence addressing and treating the underlying factors of depression, trauma, did (multiple personality), ADHD, and another unspecified mood disorder. I know I have a problem masking my mental anguish with wine here and there... yet it is due to pain and NOT AT ALL to have a good, high time. It's tocover up my mental baggage I guess you should say. So, I know we'll believe... everything happens for a reason and think this may have happened to get my head screwed on straight, ya know? I took a quiz on depression today and mine turned out "severe" and questioned it but all my therapist could tell me was cuz it's become natural to me now. I just need people telling and verifying that I'm using the best action... shouldn't I go to the root of the problem and then if need be, which it may not, I can address drinking over feelings?? Please respond... in need of input.
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