Alcohol creating a conduit?

So there have been a few occasions where if I drink, everyone else pops out. Like an alter parade. Probably not everyone, really, but all I have to go on is what my now husband tells me. I'm not drinking enough to be blackout blotto drunk.

But husband is telling me about conversations I have no memory for. With my alters, who want to be intimate but he's not comfortable with that, and frankly, I'm glad he isn't going there.

I have no idea how to deal with this. My husband has a better understanding of my alters than I do.

Any insight would be welcome.

Keep trying to communicate with them the best you can. Do you believe they are there? Do you know why? Do you know their function? Be really curious!

Just my opinion, but 4 drinks seems a lot.

There is no way I could handle 4 drinks in one evening.

Possibly they will start popping out even if you don't drink. They are getting to know him. Usually that is a good thing.

I absolutely concur. When my SO drinks the possibility of someone else appearing is much greater. It even depends on what she drinks: if it's whiskey it's Nelly, of its wine it's Jennifer etc. Also depends on how much she drinks the more the greater the possibility.

Drinking usually lowers inhibitions and so if there was any reason for them to not come out at other times, perhaps this inhibition would be lowered a bit while drinking?

I think 4 drinks seems like a lot, personally, I wouldn't be able to handle that.

KudzuVines wrote:I have no idea how to deal with this.

In what way would you want to deal with it?

It sounds like a good thing that they are all getting to know your husband a bit better.

4 drinks is too much for me . Maybe because I drink rarely .

To clarify, four is my limit and that would be spread out over the course of an evening, not in quick succession, and rare. I don't drink that much, normally, but I do like a glass or two of wine with dinner once or twice a week.

Keep trying to communicate with them the best you can. Do you believe they are there? Do you know why? Do you know their function?

Yes, I believe that they're there, although I vacillate between belief and denial a lot. I thought I knew some of their functions, but husband reports from conversations showed that some of my ideas about it were incorrect.

.Possibly they will start popping out even if you don't drink. They are getting to know him. Usually that is a good thing.

They kind of always have popped out, but it's like they used to pretend to be me and now they don't. If that makes sense?

In what way would you want to deal with it?

I don't know. I guess I wish that it could stay hidden, if it has to exist at all. The idea that husband knows these things is embarrassing to me (really embarrassing isn't a strong enough word). For that matter, I wish now that I could edit my original post to remove alters' names and other identifying details.

KudzuVines wrote:They kind of always have popped out, but it's like they used to pretend to be me and now they don't. If that makes sense?

That makes total sense. That's normal too, and counts as real progress. Congratulations! Envy!

KudzuVines wrote:The idea that husband knows these things is embarrassing to me (really embarrassing isn't a strong enough word).

For me the word that comes to mind is mortifying.

Been there, done that. Before my diagnosis I heard an incredible, bizarre, utterly mortifying story about myself from a woman I did not know, that I absolutely did not believe. She had been sharing this story with all her friends, one of whom was my friend. My friend got us together and got her to tell me the story. I was sure she had to be making it up. But why? What in the world was wrong with her? Then for a few years I was sure what she said was all true (after all, I now knew it was possible). But then she told me a new story that was without doubt not true. So now I don't know.

KudzuVines wrote:I wish now that I could edit my original post to remove alters' names and other identifying details.

A moderator can do that for you. When you are logged in you can see in the upper right corner of every post a triangle with "!"; click that to report any post in need of attention from a moderator.

KudzuVines wrote:I wish now that I could edit my original post to remove alters' names and other identifying details.

A moderator can do that for you. When you are logged in you can see in the upper right corner of every post a triangle with "!"; click that to report any post in need of attention from a moderator.[/quote]

Done.

ViolarRules, thank you!

That's normal too, and counts as real progress.

I was afraid it meant I was getting worse, more "florid" it whatever.