Alter wanting to go to crisis center

I just got out of a crisis, where my alter was yelling seemed non-stop complaining about our boyfriend not spending enough time with us. My boyfriend and I talked about it, and I avoided that crisis. Yet, my alter is threatening another crisis within a couple months, saying ill have to go to the crisis center and put on weight. I restrict my eating, so it's unsettling for me to gain any kind of weight. My alter knows my weaknesses. And I tell him I don't care if I go to a crisis center cause the main reason besides putting more weight on me is the expenses. Yet there free. This alter of mine just hates me to the core and enjoys my misery. Yet in public I can get away from his negativity, for awhile. Yet that while is never long enough cause he takes being nice sometimes only to do a 180 on me and be his evil self. He's just threatening and demeaning me at the moment. And my T session can't come fast enough. Yet they don't get that I'm not demeaning myself, they say he's a part of you and you must in a way want that for yourself. Why the hell would I put myself in a crisis.? It seems that my alter is wining at fooling them in how he really acts. Yes he does give me breaks sometimes but their never for long. Then he's back to controlling, degrading me and doing anything negative. I can't communicate with him cause all be does is lie or give reasons/ excuses for his behavior. When all he wants to do is yell. Cause he likes making me miserable. Anyone have suggestions on similar experiences with alters like this or am I alone on having such a tedious alter?

I'm sorry you have this experience. Sounds like abuse to be perfectly honest. That is not ok, even if it comes from within. Sounds a bit like your T doesn't get it either. I agree in part that he is part of the whole, but you don't control his actions or you wouldn't be did.

For us we have a part who gets her energy from crisis. She doesn't seem to know how to take front unless she is self destructive and she craves the front therefore bad things happen. She doesn't even want to get better because mental illness is her identity. I (host) don't know what to do with her. Usually I let her take front when the rest of us are feeling strong so I know we can stop her before we end up in hospital.

I also restrict (food) so I get that.
C.

I'm co-con. With Owen so I mainly have control while Owen watches. And yes, he too seeks self destructive behavior. Not just for attention, but to get what he wants. But he never gets what he wants till he calms down. He says he likes to torture me and just wants me miserable.