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Re: for the protectors [venting and advice]

Postby IainEtc » Sun Apr 08, 2018 7:21 pm

Evan got peanut butter inside the f-ing keyboard! WTF! Why do Littles do stupid sh*t like that? Wasn't planning on fixing the KB this weekend. Got it done. Going to wrap the damn laptop in f-ing saran wrap.

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Re: for the protectors [venting and advice]

Postby birdsong87 » Sun Apr 08, 2018 9:13 pm

hey NoName
Mike is eeendlessly preaching to us about balance and having to swing from one good thing to the other like a pendulum. cause only doing one thing will mess it up completely. You are totally right about the journaling thing. it cant be everything you guys do. thats not even good for you. let your head breathe a little. if you only reflect all the time you go nuts!
do you work out? I like kickboxing a lot. good way not to think at all, or journal, or type ...

Colin,
I can't even imagine what a sticky mess that must have been! get the littles their own keyboard! our brother used to have one that was all floppy silicone that could be washed.
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Re: for the protectors [venting and advice]

Postby TheGangsAllHere » Mon Apr 09, 2018 1:52 am

Hey, thanks, Annett! That 24-hour break idea worked out well, so I think we're going to make some kind of plan that limits this stuff. It was so great to wake up this morning and know that we were going to get some stuff DONE!

Yeah-we work out almost every day. I would go f*cking crazy if we didn't.

Ugh-Colin, that sounds like a mess. Glad you got it clean and everything works.

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Re: for the protectors [venting and advice]

Postby sugarkillsall » Wed Apr 11, 2018 1:45 pm

Hello, nice to meet you all. I believe I am the protector of our system, but I'm can't seem to be completely sure.. My name is Akari. You can also call me Dani or Celeste, whichever you prefer. I seem to act almost like a mother figure in the system. I'm the only one that our little will actually allow to act motherly with her. I take over when things are hard for the host or other alters to deal with. I'm not sure if that makes me the protector, but possibly?
Either way, nice to meet you. I look forward to speaking with you.
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Re: for the protectors [venting and advice]

Postby Violarules » Wed Apr 11, 2018 1:56 pm

sugarkillsall wrote:Hello, nice to meet you all. I believe I am the protector of our system, but I'm can't seem to be completely sure.. My name is Akari. You can also call me Dani or Celeste, whichever you prefer. I seem to act almost like a mother figure in the system. I'm the only one that our little will actually allow to act motherly with her. I take over when things are hard for the host or other alters to deal with. I'm not sure if that makes me the protector, but possibly?
Either way, nice to meet you. I look forward to speaking with you.


Welcome, Akari. That does sound like a protector's behavior to me.

It's been a while since I was here last. Everything is really stressful right now. Viola is constantly worrying about things and ignoring our attempts to help. She asks for help, but she doesn't trust any of us to front unfortunately. We want to help her, but can't when she shuts us out. It's so annoying!
I have ADHD. Possibly have another mental disorder but am not certain.

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Re: for the protectors [venting and advice]

Postby TheGangsAllHere » Wed Apr 11, 2018 6:43 pm

Hey Akari and Cynthia,

Sorry about all your stress, Cynthia. Hosts can be so f*cking annoying sometimes!

I've been stronger lately and running things more. Not sure why, but I think one reason is my "I don't give a f*ck attitude" is helpful with a project we're doing where it's really important to stay confident and have a big presence, without being bossy. Also, I'm good at getting us up and motivated to get things done, and there is a LOT to do this week.

I think I will issue another challenge for us to stay off here--would love to see if we can do it until tomorrow evening, but that may be asking too much of the littles and that know-it-all part that is always thinking about all this stuff and observing us. I want to say mind your own business, but she'll say it's her business, too. :roll: :roll:

F*ck this--I REALLY wish everyone else would stop interfering with what I want to do!!!

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Re: for the protectors [venting and advice]

Postby sugarkillsall » Wed Apr 11, 2018 7:29 pm

Hello Cynthia and NoName, thank you for the welcome.

I'm sorry that you both are under so much stress. That can't possibly be easy to deal with. I do agree that hosts can be hard-headed and stressful, but I like to believe it is because they are merely afraid something bad will happen if they are to willing to accept the help of other parts.

Cynthia, have you tried to just show or tell Viola what you think she should do? If you give her the advice and she does it herself, it may help her stress a bit less while still not requiring her to allow you to front when she would rather you not. If she will not listen to your advice, at the very least she may think more about what you think she should do, and hopefully she will find a way to take your advice, in her own way if not directly.
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Re: for the protectors [venting and advice]

Postby IainEtc » Tue Apr 17, 2018 10:40 am

Totally pissed off! So Host goes nuts in T and gets this emergency host to take over. I get it that we don't want to end up in the hospital but WTF! I could have taken over. What's wrong with that? I know I'm a teen but a clueless new host is just a f*ing menace. He's screwing things up all over the place!

Colin

STUPID F*CKING NEW HOST IS GOING TO GET US ALL F*CKING KILLED BECAUSE HE DOESN'T KNOW SH*T ABOUT F*CKING ANYTHING!

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Re: for the protectors [venting and advice]

Postby sugarkillsall » Tue Apr 17, 2018 11:45 am

Bren, Colin - I'm very sorry you both are so stressed out. That has got to be a lot to deal with. I do hope things smooth out soon, and if there's anything at all that I or any of the other alters can do to help, please let us know.
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Re: for the protectors [venting and advice]

Postby TheGangsAllHere » Tue Apr 17, 2018 8:10 pm

Wow--what a f*cking mess, Colin and Bren!! I hope that guy didn't screw things up too badly--he sounds pretty clueless, but I guess that's the idea, right?? He's there BECAUSE he doesn't know sh*t about f*cking anything?

I don't want to EVER go back to having ANYONE out front who doesn't know about us, but I'm not sure what we would do if it was that or the hospital. Going to the hospital would mess up our life REALLY badly.

Our T hasn't screwed things up lately, so everyone's pretty calm and I can get things done without people slowing us down by crying and sh*t. Although one little wants to spend time making some stupid trinket for the T today. It's always something. :roll:

Anyway, I'm glad you were able to sneak around that clueless one and let us know what's happening. Bobby was driving us all crazy moping around and checking the damn forum every 2 seconds.

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