for the protectors [venting and advice]

Things have calmed down a bit, though Keith was really scared by it so I'm having a hard time getting him to come out of hiding. He'll come out on his own at some point I guess. I think a video might work as long as I can record it without being interrupted by any of her family members. We don't live in our own place so that makes things like that difficult. But I'll give your suggestion a try.

just be careful and dont do anything that doesnt feel right with you. i have only heard of this and i dont know if its a brilliant idea or if it could cause a host to go into crisis mode...

Hi,

Just a thought. I know our Host is WAY more in denial when he's around family. I mean those are the people he's in denial FOR! Maybe some of this is about where you guys are living.

Good luck,

Iain

I haven't thought about that. It could be that especially since her family had already told her there's no way she could have DID because she hasn't experienced any trauma

Ah, the old - no DID = no Trauma = our family did nothing wrong deal. Heard that one before.

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There are families were everybody knows the abuser is a crazy sick mean f-ing monster. But that doesn't mean they'd actually protect a little kid from him. That would be admitting something was wrong. Child sacrifice isn't just about crazy religions. It's being practiced in families all over the world. 'Don't embarrass us and we'll give you our kid to mess up. Deal?'
Fu*k them all!
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So maybe Viola is having an uphill battle trying to accept DID in the face of her family being whiny little cowards.

Colin

Yeah, especially since her mom refuses to believe that she and her brother have ADHD saying it's just an excuse people use for kids who don't listen to their parents She's always been like that though. Ignore it and it'll go away type of mentality. I hate people with that kind of mentality.

I'm not angry but just tired... tired of idiots who can't love without thinking about running away at the first difficulte thing. Now, Plume is anxious again, because her girlfriend said she's not sure she'll handle the distancies until Plume end her school. Plume is trying to make a plan to move to a school next to her girlfriend's house between the first and the second semester, but it's not sure it will work, and last night, her girlfriend told her on skype she will not handle it if it doesn't work and she don't know what she'll do, maybe she'll disapear. Of course, the girlfriend can't move, she had animals and all of her family next to her house, and Plume doesn't have those things to keep her back. Also, her girlfriend and her mother doesn't like each other.

So tired of people who says they understand, they want to help, they want to protect, people who makes us belive it will be okay this time, then disapear. The father did this, the first almost-boyfriend did this, the best friend did this, the girlfriend did this now... it seems to be a f*cking circle, finding stupide people, makes efforts for them, but they never do the same and simply run away because of their fear/another one/distance.
If this story have a bad ending, this will be the last time I let Plume try something with someone.
It will be better if we're alone together.
-Daemon

She's just a big stupid one, her face deserve to meet my hand.
-Alexis

And now she says we don't understand, she wasn't mean that, when she said "I'll disapear" it mean "only for a time".
She can't understand it sounds the same for Plume (even if Plume know it's not), she thinks I put all the fault on her (well, not totaly wrong...) and she don't understand it's the way she express herslef which drive me crazy and make Plume anxious !
Now she is like "well, I'll not talk if it's the problem", and even attack me about how I protect my system. She don't even know what she is talking about !
Say "Sorry, I'll be carefull now" seems to not be option for her...

-Daemon

Hi Daemon,

That sucks. Sounds like she's not brave enough for you. Maybe you should get a T-shirt that says - Brave girlfriends only!

Iain & Colin

Hey everyone.

Ok so I think I'm getting the hang of this now and the termanology etc. Sooo then I was just told I could post here if I like and I would like to.

So our host is Amanda, but we call her M. Then there's K who won't speak to anyone but me, then there's me. I'm Sol.

M thinks I have only been here, well able to come to the forefront for a few months but in reality I have been here for years. M is annoying. She won't listen to me and in trying to help her. She doesn't help herself at all. She has so much to f...ing offer but she can't see it. How do I get her to do what's best for her?

Sol. X