Thank you Kay
We have struggled with Emotional Regulation and memory since the stroke. Some of us were cut off completely from the front originally and had to be 'found' again and were too damaged to be host again for a while.
Pathways between alters had been damaged too so things like having a 'central pot' of skills, memories for others to share wasn't working for all..some were still unable to reach or retain the memories.
Making new memories has been a big issue but different hosts had different ideas of what was considered a 'new memory' to them. eg for ones around in later life a midlife memory may have been considered a 'past memory,' which for them was automatically remembered ...to one who felt they hadn't been about since the 80's and didn't remeber that mid-life time period at all..that was a 'new memory' they struggled to remember long enough to learn from.
Having the additional mood swings , brain fog etc caused by peri too on top of all that hasn't helped!
We've had to work around some memory issues by basically just trying to 'mix and match' parts to see who could reach each other or blend with another and stay blended long enough to 'swap info' then for each to try and find someone else they could pass that onto...eventually everyone seems to be 'on the same page '..at least of the more developed hosts.
It seems all we can do for the very early damaged fragments with no language, is assign them a caretaker(s) to look after their needs on the inside, hence Bobby 'building a world 'they would be able to understand and feel safe within. Their needs are very primitive and basic and they show no ability to understand that there's an 'outside world' beyond recognising familiar carers who live inside with them.
The only 'therapy' we have received thoughout has been basic stroke rehab stuff, mainly focused on regaining physical ability and been able to take care of our basic needs etc. I think we've just kept switching about in the hope maybe one of us had retained some skills others had lost and we could find a way to transfer them between us.
Kit