looking for advice about my best friend

My best friend was diagnosed years ago with MPD / DID.

Shes been coping with it really well, but recently theres been a little trouble with her alters. One of them is getting jelouse about the amount of time one of them is spendling with me.

Im wondering if there is anything i can do here to try and help. Ive tried spending time with all of them as much as possible, and trying to spend time fairly with each of them, but she's still jelouse and hates it if i ask if i could talk to another of her alters at some point, even if im talking about sometime in the future {ie tomorrow or in an hour or anything like that}.

I would really appriciate any help, anything that migth make things a little easier for us all.

Thanks in advance,

Hope.

Is it a little kid alter? Cuz it sounds like it. In any case, do what you would do with any pain in the ass child, sit her down and explain to her where you stand about fairness and all, and that some times you just need to talk to one of the others, love her very much, bla bla and all that other crap kids like to hear.

- D

no, its not. Her child alters are ok with 'sharing' me as they call it. Shes 17, i believe. which is why its more of a problem

And its only been recently too. It didnt used to be a problem at all, and nothing has changed between us at all. And ive asked their protector, and he says nothing seems to have changed between any of them either.

Oh, pissy little teenager. Then you can stop being nice, and tell her to grow the ###$ up and learn to share.

- D

anything like that triggers her. I try my hardest not to trigger her, as shes been through a lot and i really need to be careful what i say around her

Try explaining there's no need to be jealous/insecure. Tell her you love her very much, and really enjoy spending time with her, but that with living with more in one body, time has to be shared. And that you don't think any less of her than of other alters, and that her place in your life and heart will stay, also when you're spending time with another alter or someone else in your life. It's hard, and you could try helping her help herself to get your point this way, but if nothing else works I'm afraid you can't always avoid her buttons.. But try this and see how it goes.. Good luck!!

I sometimes feel that way when I friend, who is very much like you, asks for another alter, from what it sounds I think its on a much less scale, but I sometimes do feel that way. I like what surreal said about letting her know that you dont think any less of her. Because sometimes its a matter of not feeling good enough to talk to you when another alter comes out. I sometimes have to be reminded that if the alters dont get time, or if she doesnt ask another alter a question, then I will lose time and I wont get answers. Perhaps spending a bit more time with her every so often will prevent her from feeling so jealous. I have a few child and teen alters that need more time than others. Maybe there is a different alter who is willing to give her a little more time, or maybeyou can set aside time to do something special together to let her knwo that you really do care.
Thank you for being such a fantastic friend, we need more of you in the world!