Alter imaging an outside person is addressing him

It has happened to me a few times that I have noticed: I am in control, interacting with someone. Suddenly I get this sensation that I am a particular someone else (i.e., a young boy). I see the body language and hear the words of the outside person in slow motion and my own senses seem heightened somehow. It feels as though the words of the outside person are going through me and beaming to another part of me, giving that other part a strong sense of connection with the person and the outer world. I feel that part of me "knowing" that the outside person is knowingly recognizing and addressing them. I feel like an empty vessel, a passageway, and then the alter having/causing this experience either comes out suddenly or comes very close to coming out.

It has happened three times lately, with two different alters, once with a stranger, and once with my husband (who denied calling the alter, though after she arrived and I then forced my way forward, he requested she return), and once with a friend/ex-boyfriend who is aware of the specific alter. (I didn't ask him if he was doing anything on purpose because I was struggling not to let the alter out, and I was afraid if I focused on her it would give her more ability to get out. In retrospect, I should have just let it happen rather than fight it. But I was trying to discuss something with my husband.)

When my husband denied having called the specific alter out, I could feel her heartbrokenness that he didn't "love" her enough to see her. Later I told my husband this, and he then did a gesture of affection towards me that she would like, causing her to come out. I complained, saying he was trying to summon her, her said he was just trying to hug me. Then he went on doing the same thing, bringing her out, until I got upset and pushed her back in. (I know I should just let it go. But it is so embarrassing and I feel so out of control. which is kind of silly because she has always been a part of the relationship.)

Have others experienced this? It's almost like they are experiencing "talking through" even if it isn't actually happening. Although maybe the example with my ex-boyfriend is partly due to talking through. Both the alters that I experienced this with are relatively young.

Yes, it is talking through. Talking through can happen even when the other person isn't consciously doing it, even when the other person doesn't know anything about DID. Everyone has ego states, and between any two persons there will be certain pairs of ego states that are especially resonant with each other. See this thread on the topic of talking through:

DID Forum: How do you to talk through the host to an insider?

I've hesitated responding because it was an experience that happened in my last T session and I haven't had a chance to flesh it out, but it has been hanging in my mind all this time.

We were talking about my relationship with a particular alter when I began to get really foggy. I stopped hearing my T and she began referring to this alter in the 2nd person...so that I would hear the word "you" and then a buzzing sound. It lasted for a few minutes and then T was asking me if I wanted to talk about something else and we moved into a grounding-type conversation. I never got a chance to bring it back up before our session was over.

Other times Melissa has pushed forward when certain topics come up and she feels like she needs to be part of the conversation, but she doesn't block me out the way Justice does.

The thing that gets me is that my T is quicker sometimes to tell when I am switching than I am.

Amy, this is wonderful. Look how far you have come already. Soon, with that alter, you will be able to stay present enough to hear the conversation, not dissociate.

Thanks for the confirmation, Una+.

My therapist said my husband is probably often calling out alters without realizing what he's doing. We also talked about ego states and the difference between someone with DID and someone more average, how it would feel different. I guess the feeling of "otherness" would be lacking, but if you're sad and someone was trying to cheer you up but you didn't want to be, you might feel upset or resist. But it wouldn't be like you're having a battle with another person inside you.

Amy, interesting experience. It is good you're becoming more aware. During this hard, hard phase, it looks like you're making a lot of progress.